11 Methods to Psychologically Draw attention away from Yourself When Running

Being alone is not a feeling in itself but a state you find yourself in when you are going through bad times and really low self esteem and can see no way out

4:49 in to the video and I haven’t heard any tips or information…

Thank you very much. This is very helpful ��❤
Here it’s very flaky/ghostly and some future faking shit. Also from the first messages off said we had a special connection. And it felt familiar, like we are pieces of eachothers puzzle ���� it really is a way to get in.

Once you overcome your fear of heights you will die from falling off a skyscraper.

I’m not depressed. My GP has experimented with every antidepressant. I wake up in the morning with dead-battery syndrome, chronic fatigue. Hypothyroid of course. Anxiety has always been an issue. I’ve tried psycho-therapy, and many Employees Help Program psychologists.
I’m on another leave of absence.
My GP I think is at her wits end trying to figure out what to do with me.
Any suggestions to a new direction?

Too many ads. They really took me away from your message & discourages me from watching other videos on your channel.
Anyway, thanks for sharing these tips!

My mom always says to watch out for people who talks with sweety, sweety voices…wanting to know everything about you, fluffing you or pretending to be a poor victim.

What about introverts? I myself dont like being surrounded by people in general, that actually gives me stress and anxiety. Im no psychologist and thats why Im asking because I don’t believe all of us are social creatures that’s the reason introverts and extroverts exist, isn’t it?

I can’t even distinguish between my gut voice and my resistance voice and the voice borne of my relationship with my narcissistic mother

And if it gets too relaxed you can get palpitations!! Gah!! You can also just squash you throat where your vagal nerve is just press it…bam.

I would like to know WHY THE VA PSYCHIATRISTS WILL NOT LET WIVES N HUSBANDS KNOW WHEN THEIR MATE IS A NARC OR HAS THOSE SEVERE DETRIMENTAL ATRIBUTES???

MY ex was a real psycho Narc n I was at the VA hospital two to three times a week with him seeing his Psychiatrist! At times I could actually hear him arguing with this Dr. on the other side of the door��!
All the while I was praying they would call his nasty arrogant bluff and admit him��������. But that never happened ��
I battled n stayed with him for 49 years not knowing who he was, nor why he could never be normal?
I had I idea what a Narc was at the time.
After he became violent I finally had to run for my life to get away from that dangerous person��

My avoidance is killing me. But, I now get why. I need to work on my willingness. I cannot remain hopeless. I used to feel incredible joy.

Great video, all the salient points and very well presented.

It is always a learning experience. I was set up with Narcissistic parents. Between 35 -40, I “fired” them all. I am usually sensitive to detecting Narcissists and Avoid them. However, I let a convert Narcissist in for a while. It was a 1 year drain on my life. I finally figured it out she was a narcissist and cut the relationship off.

Dr Emma, i tried this exercise but could not my breath for not more than 20 seconds. Doing it seemed to ignite some chest tightness which i experience almost daily. It also caused some burping. Probably diaphragm spasms which i experience pretty regularly too. I have many spinal issues contributing to the misery of chronic pain and stiffness everyday. Those conditions in turn have caused nueropathy in peripheral nervous system. This exercise did help to relax to a certain extent. Your Vids of therapy in a Nutshell, i find are constructive and helpful.

The first thing that should’ve warned me was not understanding his big reactions! I then entered in overthinking what was wrong and couldn’t react! From my French background I think it’s the definition of gaslighting! When I understood their tricks, I was seeing those tricks and that removed any emotion I was feeling! I started planning my exit!

Slow breathing never works for palpitations, in my experience at least.

Im watching this bc i have depression And i want To get rid of it

I try and learn the tactics and traits because I was raised in a narcissistic family dynamics, so basically its been a life pattern until my mid forties. In 2015, I call the year of the narcissist I could stand back and watch a boss, a roomate, a new person I was trying to date all create havoc in my life, my relationship with self and god got me out, still healing.
One thing I noticed my dog did not like my narc mother, I think animals can see people who lie. Watch animals around them, see if its real.
The love bombers are amazing at mirroring, activities and food likes and preferences. The pace of the summer schedule made it so we were on the go, I had no time to think does this all feel right, had a dream years later, that was part of the plan to control, fast pace.
All my resources dried up, even the fire wood for the winter supply, used by him and never replaced. (Notice the small stuff or seems small)
I watch to see if an invite, gal friends or boyfriends, is it always on their terms, never co created, only late Friday when they feel alone, no bueno.
Hoovering, using meta physical launguage mirroring, and then not having a spiritual practice and lack of empathy, are also up there.

I don’t say to my parents that I have depression cuz they will say “you dont have one!” “You’re just over reacting”

I’m going through depression at the moment I feel Dead Weak And I feel like Nothing

I love your videos! Thank you for such informative and clearly articulated videos.

Hi Emma! Thank you for making these videos It leads me to ACT and rediscover mindfulness, feel like finally something make sense.
Here is a question about willingness: What if we are being maliciously hurt by others, is willingness still apply to this kind of situation? When I try to do mindfulness or willingness exercise, I frequently got trapped in surging rage. Feel like willingness is asking me to weaken myself and just do not fight back. 
Any advise? Thank you again for all these effort.

Those were actually some pretty good ideas, thanks for sharing. I’ve been streaming a lot of audio books or the occasional podcast, although I thought your philosophy on headphones was interesting.

I can only do 10secs:( hays i hav anxiety and panic attacks because of my GERD

Everything you’re speaking of has happened to me the last 2 years, I gave the 20th chance…I have literally lost everything, I am still here for the child,, not my own, he manipulates with this precious baby and I’m afraid to leave baby boy. I am starting therapy and you tube videos, like yours are how I am keeping my sanity as well as getting a description of what my world has been with this narc.

You are here for a reason, everything will get better no matter how bad it may seem. I promise that one day you will be happy and you will be content with your life, smile every single day when you wake up in the morning until you go back to bed you are worth it, you are amazing. I assure you that everything is going to be okay. Drop me a message if you need help with anything

If you see this you’re not alone I’m here for you, but will you be there for me?

I believe you just told me my whole life story I have been going through this for months and i finally learning everyday on how to break free from this thank you so much

Your video suggestions are covering the content at the end. Does it say avoid the stressful situation?

That was really helpful. I want to get back into running. I used to run. Thank you

I’ve seen too many women get involved with narcissistic men because they believe in the fantasy of twin flames. If a confident woman meets a partner and that partner meets them more than halfway, is not co-dependent or alcoholic, or mean, then that could be a true soul mate. People are obsessed with the “soul mate”. You are spot-on in your description of “Cinderella”.

Am 11 year old and have depression and my friend left me because I wouldn’t tell her about my dep and anxiety

Impressive.
From 26sec to 1min and 21 seconds. I am practicing this everyday for now on. I was a controller person, so this will help a lot. Thank u

Thank you for posting these videos, I have just subscribed�� I’m new and can already see this channel is going to work wonders to improve my mental wellbeing…thank you ❤️❤️❤️

That sweat lodge story frightens me. That shouldn’t be carried out in that temp. It’s reckless with those kids and there have been deaths associated with them.

Thank you. I’m working on calming my over-reactive body, and these ideas will help. I do wonder, though, about social interaction. It’s clear that hugs & warm feelings do calm, but I often find that being with people also brings over-stimulation. How do you view this?

that’s super weird! I actually felt like I noticed the bad feelings of holding my breath quicker and that I was doing worse, but when I finally gave up I had held my breath for twice as long

Its buddhist dharma of awareness. Your being aware. Connecting with awareness helps your suffering.

What you think is what you feel

Thank you so much. It does help. Sometimes I have uncontrollable nervousness for no reason and watching this I feel relieved.

Try and see the intent of the other individual. Why are they getting me a gift? Are they doing it because itws a gift that is coming from the bottom of their heart, or is it to impress me/swoon me/sweep me off my feat? Your gut/heart will know whether it is a genuine present, or not.

My ex used that magical, deep connection to draw me in. I know, now, that I wasn’t getting any connection with my family, so I was seeking it out and here was someone, who was really barely offering anything better, but it was more than I’d been getting, so I craved it. He was also always trying to move us too fast. Within the first few months, he wanted to get married. And I was like, we were still pretty on the surface of each other, why would you want to even think about marriage yet. And when I brought that up to him, he started accusing me of not loving him and that I didn’t want to marry him. Like, you should be happy that I want us to know each other better and know we get along well before we make such a big commitment. And I admit, yes, I was worried about losing him and didn’t want to mess things up so quickly. And again, didn’t help that HE was always “concerned” with us messing things up and kind of encouraged me to not talk about stuff.

I didn’t have the whole, “text me fifty times in a row”, he’d take forever to respond to me. And, yes, I realized it was a power move and a move to get me to forget things. Like, I’d be so “happy” he finally responded, I’d forget why I was annoyed or upset with him a few days ago. It was all just so bad and I cannot help feeling dumb for falling for it because while it was somewhat clear within the relationship, but it became crystal clear after we broke up and I could think about it outside of it.

love the pics of the food.. have u done a nutrition/food menu video anywhere?

Were you part of Second Nature? I was in a wilderness program in the Utah Book Cliffs for about 8 weeks called Second Nature.

Do anyone know how to make yourself feel better when a lot of people you know are committing suicide all at one time??

Know your limits, respect your limits, but don’t be afraid to push your limits.

i was training with weight’s for 4 years and then decided to try endurance sport’s and wow now for 2 years i mostly do cycling and running and what i can say is that endurance sport is much harder then lifting weight’s from my experience

Love bombing is getting ridiculous. Only 2 months in and I told him don’t need these gifts and he does a lot of future talk. My kids finally met him and my stomach was bothering me all day I’m still not over past traumas but, I definitely know why I need to do now. He’s already talking too fast even though he says we can take our time, but his words always talk about us in the future. I also asked him to delete photos of me that where taken while I wasn’t paying attention, he said he would but then admitted that he doesn’t plan on deleting them

Great Great video. U may have saved me from a future narcassit. Had enuff already from past

Got to love Training Talk Thursday! Big fan Sage from England here how about a talk on other training aspects us runners can focus on.. What else can/should (if anything) we be doing, apart from running, to help us improve. I rack up the miles each week, varied sessions but should I get out on the bike, down the gym for some strength work, swimming etc??

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
What am I doing,
in this stupid world ��

That thing about controlling money is a bear. I got tired of having moldy food put on the table so pennies could be saved. My 90 yr old mother does this and she gets vicious if you refuse to eat the bread with mold picked off. I mean crazy mean vicious where she attacks and says you think you’re too good and you don’t know she had to scrimp and save. I grew up with her so of course I know we never had it ‘that’ bad. But the willingness to hurt or harm so as not to be challenged has started to scare me. All of a sudden I’m looking at a malignant narc who gets ‘fed’ by asserting I’m inconsiderate and mean to HER. Lately, the fanaticism to be right has led to her calling up mutual friends to say I’m mean.

Like with pedophile Epstein, neurons probably kicked in making him feel juiced with certain behaviors which got hard wired in. A narc receives this sensation of ‘juice’ while trying to make you vacant inside.

I sometimes watch my physical changes and mental masses shift as I live my shock and horror. What I have noticed is that my personality is becoming layered. One ‘way’ of surviving caked upon another, building a cluster personality, a pseudo self. It’ like a science experiment with a perverse curiosity about how much I can take without splitting in two. And you know, this actually is probably what the control freak is dealing with themselves. They are like clay that has been baked hard into shape while I feel more like clumsily stacked masses of playdough. My accumulated mental mass from resistance to her can be separated and I can SEE them….because I am not collapsed into them and they are not ME. They are something I ‘have’, like my ear…..or a purse.

IMO narc control is about keeping their ‘core cluster’ from loosening up and coming undone. Maybe reminds them of the time they got stacked up that way. Now they’re a whole new different composite liable to break instead of bend.

You are one of those people who searched this video so they can end their depression but…

it didn’t end…

What’s that green stuff your drinking?  Looks interesting.  Great video.

I haven’t tried the counting tips, thats something i will definitely try! what I usualy do when it really starts to hurt is tell myself. just 3 more steps and if I can proof to myself that i can take those 3 more steps than I will add another 3. I believe its called chunking. where you split a big task in multiple smaller tasks to trick your brain into thinking its not that big. anyway great video again!:)

I have my first track met tomorrow and I’m doing the 1000,1600,.800 4by 4 and the 2mile. I do cross country and all but this is different. Have any breathing tips and tips for when you are running and your legs craps up badly?

No the only two things you have to watch for are these: 1, do they ever sincerely ask how you are doing? 2. can they take it when you say ‘no’?

I tell myself that I want to be a human being and not a human doing. It is ok to just be.

Brilliant. It feels good to have a strategy. Once again, a wonderful piece of thinking, Emma. This may take a while to get used to, but it feels right. I was waiting to see what would happen at the edge of a breath. But I see the analogy to emotions. Open up to them, look into them, don’t sidestep.

Thanks so much for another awesome segment, I’ve been posting about your vids on Twitter a little bit, I hope you don’t mind.

I want to ask something, you hold the breath after inhale or after exhale?

I literally do nofap for 7 days and i’m no longer depressed. Negative thoughts are literally on the moon but nowhere near me

I think Willingness coupled with religious understanding makes for profound experience i.e realisation that creator has brought this about in the creature( individual human) as he has brought (or allowed to manifest) all of creation

Here’s a quick summary of techniques:
1) Meditative breathing (long slow outbreathes)

2) Mindfulness (covered in separate video)

3) Laughter (watch stupid Youtube videos)

4) Listen to your biorythms (eat when hungry, sleep when sleepy)

5) Monotasking (do one thing at a time, do it slowly)

6) Social connection (close friendships)

7) Take care of body (stretching, massage)

8) Standing on your head (heart works differently which triggers vagal nerve response)

None of these techniques will solve your problems. The purpose behind these techniques is to calm you down so you can solve your problems easier.
You’re Welcome!

this method shouldn’t be used as a way of helping you be willing to keep living with narcissistic people:(

Great video as useual!
Could you explain about how many marathons a person should run a year.
This year i run 2 marathons. But i’m thirsty for more since i improve my time. Also what do you do the first days after the marathon?
Keep up the great work sage!

Right right… be willing to feel a little pain. Sure, one becomes a little sensitive to the next time that awful anxiety is going to make you look like a spaz at work.

I felt a lot better, more self possessed, when I realized the real mental illness would be feeling just fine in this dog eat dog world we’ve transformed Thomas Jefferson’s American into. You depressed and anxious? You’d be nuts not to be.

My great grandparents lived in the early, mid 20th century. They owned their home b/c you could save for a handful of years to pay it off in those days (b/c they didn’t take out loans etc. etc. whole other story…). B/c my granddad owned his home, he wasn’t INSECURE. He wasn’t anxious at work b/c it was an entirely different dynamic; his relationship with any boss/coworker was going to have dignity b/c if anyone treated him like less than a human he could go somewhere else (of course, not being insecure and anxious meant he had the mojo to deal with minor life difficulties, too). You can’t do that when more than a month or so off work means you can’t pay the rent and the sheriff comes and drags you and yours and your stuff into the street. That’s REAL anxiety and everyone is pretending not to notice. Real anxiety, the kind that triggers stress and depression, is caused by isolation when the price of failure, of not having money, is exposure to the elements and the worst shame our society has. Even people who are doing somewhat well will be affected should anything go wrong; you’re ****ed. But if you’re doing well, if you’re winning the game, then you think you’re happy, perky, loving live… and we need to find a way to help all these people who have insecurities (sorry, insecure is considered an insult), who have anxiety so they can be healthy like me! Pfft. Why is it when I get bullied in school I’m the one who needs pills, psychiatry, assertiveness training, breathing exercises…?

We’ve created a society where it’s easier and easier to be a nobody. Every generation a great fraction of the population have to feel like nobodies and lie on facebook. I can’t face down people, I’m a nobody; maybe if I wrote a 50 Shades of Grey book or get on tv or become ultra rich, but until then I have to be anxious….. I guess I need psychiatric help, breathing exercises so I can be like normal people. My grandparents managed to be content. Who were they? Just my grandparents. Granddad wasn’t a scientist or famous person or ceo or manager or super rich or anyone really. He just had a modest house in an income mixed (middle, upper middle, upper class) neighborhood which he added to making the kitchen larger, two gardens and an elaborately kept yard. If he had today’s affluenza sickness he’d see some country in the movies with mansions and crystal cathedrals and ultra rich glamorous celebrities and he’d risk getting on a little boat to cross the oceans to have all that; and we’d say that’s how much he wanted to escape his loser home, not that he had the mental illness of greed and envy. Just sayin’.

Even just the meditative breathing is solid gold. But I find that people are very resistant to it

I just want to say how much I appreciate you putting the list up on the screen for this exercise. Helps a lot and motives me to do it more.

Emotions are not useful. Feelings are upsetting. Weakness. Those feelings are childish. Not mature. Not CALM. Feelings angery. I feel like SCOLDING the person i like because she h owns a vehicle to give me a RIDE to my goal. I need her. Yet she makes me feel angry for ditching me every time i tell her i need a ride. O do not like the feelings inside my head. Must shut down those feelings. Drugs & ALCOHOL to drown the feelings.

This advice is for privaliged beings. I hope the human reading this, is thus.

Love mantras. I use them on step one of mile one. I use mantras that apply to life more so than just specifically running. I have noticed over the years that these definitely pay dividends with better mindset, increased gratitude (if you are working on that), and a better sense of well being. Lets face it, you are spending hours running. It is fine tuning your body. Why not fine tune your mind in the process? When I run past 20 miles, it is all “between the ears” anyway. Your mind will quit LONG before your body does. Train the mind!!

This is exactly what I need. It’s crazy how much I LOVE to learn and yet how much I let my mind trick me into avoiding school tasks like going to class or finishing an assignment or asking for help. I believe practicing willingness will help me face the trenches of my education. Please continue making videos like this!!

Thanks this helped me a lot dude my mother has been shouting at me for no reason…

That’s why i do my breathings every morning and hold my breath for 2,30 minutes.Then jump into the cold shower and sit there for 5 minutes.Till i start to like it.After that something happens and suddenly i have this huge flow of endorphines,serotonin,oxytocin i feel the most happy human being.That is Wim Hof’s Breathing Methode.The guy is a genius!

This is a cool exercise, thanks Emma, you are a beautiful person inside and out

Fabulous! Thank you Emma. I find you have an easy to follow voice and your instruction and warmth add to the listening/watching experience. This has been extremely helpful. All good wishes from the UK.

It’s funny on why i searched this even tho there is no cure or no one to help me

Hi dr Ramani thank you for all your work. I was hoping you make a video about How to survive and move on after a narsasistic relationship.thanks

Wow, i’m shocked by how hard monotasking is for me. Love how you get to the point this is so rare on yt.

Standing on your head is just stupid and can’t be good for the neck. Some exercises can make it worse. Yoga, walking, stretching are good ones. You don’t want intense exercise.

Or, instead of doing “something slow every day”. Go about life for real, and begin to live life fully NOW, and do EVERYTHING slowly, until it is integrated and you could do it naturally without any effort or mental chatter about it.

Living meditation, with deep breathing, is the key to experiencing life itself, which is what you/we essentially are.

Thank u.

Has so much in common with the Headspace and other mindfulness training

THANK YOU. My pastor talks about people needing THERAPY. I now agree with him.

How many people were able to hold their breath until they died from lack of oxygen?

teacher: whats so funny?
me: Nothing
My brain: HERES A LITTLE LESSON IN CRIPPLING DEPRESSION, THIS IS GOING DOWN IN OSTEOPOROSIS

Well, this seems as good a place to start as any, so here we go. Cheers!

Thank you for sharing this simple but brilliant exercise.
I was able to hold my breath for 26 more seconds the second time. That too because I looked at the timer and willingly decided to stop the exercise. I could only experience agitation the first time. But during the second try, I could feel agitation, suffocation, relaxation (in feet and legs), curiosity, something being pulled out of hands and a few other bodily sensations which were either absent or I failed to take a note of during the first try.
Thank you.

At first I thought that what I am feeling is just normal, until I realize I am loosing grip on life and friends… I often go to the bathroom and stay their for long periods of time just crying in the corner taking all the pain… And sadly the only people that I think who can help me which is my family is starting to drip away from me because of the mood and feeling I always have… And I often look at the mirror and just say I wish I was never been born to just feel all this pain I am getting from school, life and home

Everytime i see myself in a mirror
I can’t help but roast myself.

The moment you realize. Your all alone no one wants to be there for you or deal with you it just makes you want to die and live at the same time the pain is the only thing that makes you feel alive its sad that we have only the shadow as our friend then they blame us for bieng distant

I love love…….though nothing lasts, no escaping fear shame loss or anxiety are part of this human rainbow spectrum…….xxoo courage for all those who suffer so ❤��

But I cannot laugh or cry, for years. I have chronic depression & am alone most of my time. None of the many breathing exercises I have tried help they just add to the stress & push my already high blood pressure right up to danger level. (Standing on my head would probably kill me.) I can’t ‘just calm down’ because I suffer from anxiety. You need to already be ok for these suggestions to work, but I’m not ok.:\ Thanks anyway. It’s nice hearing your friendly, pleasant voice at least.

I had a 800m race today and I was 600 at 1:35 and my goal was to run a 2:04 and my current Pr my 2:07 and I ran a 2:13 and I’ve been constantly trying to over come the mental edge of that last 200m because I know I’ve trained well and I wasn’t uncomfortable with lactic acid but I just kinda slowed down and gave up. And I’m still trying to figure out how I’m gonna over come that especially when it’s my senior year of high school

i am not sure if i exercised correctly.. i explored the thought in mymind the pain in mystomach.. i will try it again though.. thanks you so much

“You’re so talented, your job is so cool! Im so proud of you!”
a few days later
“what are you up to?”
me: “i have to work late and gotta be up early, can’t hang out today”
“You are a classist! You think you can just brush me off because you and your elitist job! You think your better than me because of your suit and tie in your white superiority complex!?”
(i make cartoons in a 80% people of colour, women leadership production, with a large LGBT community. Theres no suit or ties here either.)
I can’t make basic decisions like “i have to work tomorrow” or “I dont want to get drunk till 4am” or even “sorry, I have plans with my family today”

I know now. You need at least 6 months to know the person before you go into relationship. If he/ she is narcisist..the love bombing will stop before end of 6 months. No one can’t play his game so long if he is a toxic person. You only have to guard your heart and not open until you know if he is trust worthy.

Look at 99% of people in the world and do the opposite of what they do
Don’t be part of their fucked up anxious reality
And I’ll find health, peace of mind

Gd mrg Its groundhogs day in the midst of the pandemic… thank you so much for these tips.
❤��

The first thought that went through my head was “There’s no way I can do this.” Second thought was ” I’m going to quit.” Definitely learned something from this video. Thank you!

Hi, first time i held my breath i lasted 30 seconds. That has been my result for YEARS. it was my reality, my truth, my life. That’s because i have asthma, i explained to myself. Listening your instruction helped me hold my breath for 58 seconds. Wow. I could not believe it! Today… OMG… 1 minute 28 seconds, just decided to try this today, for fun. One and half a minute and smiling! You know, im feeling a lot of anxiety because of my severe illness and trying to avoid corona. It was s surprise that holding breath really exploded joy from within me. Is joy something i have tried to block away? I thank you for your videos!

I don’t see how #3 and #6 can help, bcuz the desire for connection and closeness with others, others take advantage of and is also a breeding ground for negativity, like gossiping and talking smack for one. And then watching stupid Youtube videos, there are better ways for laughter. These just seems to me like a monkey wrench to turning off stress. I believe that we can get a false sense of stress relieve under the cloak of codependency and laughter. So since it’s false, something will challenge that false sense of relief, like narcissism, that will cause the false connection to break up.

And many if not most comedians lead empty lives and suffer depression. Like in Smokey Robinson’s old song: The Tears of a Clown When There’s No One Around. Which is true. So followers of laughter are also in the same boat, and I would just say not to take yourself or life too seriously. That relieves a lot of stress. Like for example, someone I was talking to the other day was complaining about a child’s behavior. A baby in fact. A five year old baby. Talking about the baby like she’s a monster and terrorist instead of taking it easy and understanding that she’s a baby. I just shook my head.

I prefer true stress relief to a false sense of it bcuz I know that the subconscious mind is very good at playing tricks on us. Like making us feel like we have relieved some stress by being close to someone. And multitasking is in a woman’s nature, so women are made to do more than one thing at a time.

before I expand, it was 46.1 secs. after expand, 51.3. but I get the message. to trick our brain to like the uncomfortable.:) a question, should I practice this to increase breath holding?

https://jannypagez.blogspot.com/2020/07/8-8-signs-you-need-to-walk-away.html

Narcissists prey on your insecurities and fears. Avoid telling them too much. In fact, tell them as little and as vague as possible. Everything will be used and manipulated against you. Create as much personal space between you and the narcissist as possible. Don’t fall into receiving a favor from a narcissisteverything they do is to be aimed and used against you. Keep screenshots. They will try to gaslight you. RUN!!!! How to avoid one: 1) Don’t be a people pleaser. 2) Lay your borders firmly 3) don’t make excuses for their tantrums 4) try to test them for emotional stability as narcissists have little of it and tend to lose it when they lose control or when you are assertive 5) try not to serve themcooking, housekeeping, favours, sex, help, you name it 6) be assertive.

Training Talk topic idea: How to Taper before a race properly. 

I fear overheating so I don’t see how I could ever get into a sweat lodge after a day in 110 degree weather. I couldn’t even go outside in that weather. Did anyone get sick from the lodge or go to the hospital from dehydration? I’m getting panicked just thinking about it! Wouldn’t that be something that is actually dangerous so not just anxiety but your brain warning you of a real threat?

To me it’s called a, MELT DOWN. Yesterday I thought I lost
my cell phone.  These were the thoughts
racing through my head; OMG all the messages and phone numbers gone. I have to
by another phone, but what about my apps. What is another cell phone cost? My
life is OVER What an Idiot!!! How could I have lost it. What about my music and
pictures.?   I then start the swearing
and then the guilt.  Don’t take the Lord’s
name in vain tapes start running and on and on and on like a run away train
this lasted about 15 minutes anxiety stress it never ends I wish there really
was a CHILL PILL tHANKS FOR YOUR SOOTHING WORDS

I wonder what other professional therapists thing about this channel! I am sure many therapists will lose clients because of how much value she is offering here. So grateful for all your work!

Really appreciate the vedio, your vedios really helped me understand that I was in a relationship with this type person.
But man, I gotta say how many ads they put on this vedio, literally 15. Like every mins. Very disruptive.

I agree with everyone should do the “deep dive” therapy by 25. I also believe every single person should do AA’s 12 steps at least once.

1st time 1 min 1sec 2nd time 1 minute and 41 seconds. I didnt feel any negative or positive emotions just happy and negative thoughts. I dont get what holding your breath would accomplish or how this exercise relates to anxiety. found this to be pointless and useless.

Just say no to them and watch them being pushy to convince you to say yes. They don’t accept no as an answer.

2:36 as she’s listing off… Without even thinking I blurted out I don’t have anyone to hug….. I was like was, just super depressing!!! I hate PTSD you are forced to understand everyone else but no one can be bothered to understand you

Your videos annoy me so much at the moment, but I feel compelled to watch them, which makes me think they are probably good for me, so thank you for putting them out there ❤️��️����

People should understand depression.. I am into depression from months together.. I keep seeking for help from YouTube and friends but I never feel satisfied with their answers.. its so painful when u r undergoing depression. So pls suggest something so that I can try to implement to overcome depression.

I just wanna say THANK YOU. This worked for me and i feel better THANK YOU. Bro i owe you so much!

How can you get a narc title in an astrologer of science?
And why do you need this narcs world view?
You are just giving the narc supply –
11 ways don’t listen to narc psychologists to begin with
Narcs the lot

Dr. Ramani! Your delivery during #2 made me feel reprimanded��

Thanks, I needed that����

You have to change ur reality. Go somewhere u can relax and rest for a while. Exercise, eat healthy go to bed early, wake up early. Maditate and do breathing exercises. You will rewire ur brain. Otherwise it will go on forever.

Great training talk Sage. I will be running my first 50k next month and I was wondering what is the most important thing to consider while preparing for ultramarathon number 1?

Well no ones gonna see this hopefully ha it’s cringy but

Does anyone gonna have a way to get a therapist that’s not text based that you can get to?? That’s like free and like one of those hotlines type thingys cause i don’t wanna tell my bros to make em feel annoyed

It felt like I was going to pass out. This is a hard exercise. But I’m gonna keep trying. It’s a good one

Good content however, 6 commercials in twenty minutes? Thanks. You might want to look into your uT deal.

I didn’t notice any thoughts arise, just physical pain and a sense of panic but did hold the breath for 15-20 seconds longer the second time.

1. Stop with the 2nd chances.
2. Catch yourself when you make rationalizations for their behavior.
3. Do your own deep dive (a course of therapy). Learn your vulnerabilities and blind spots.
4. Trust your damn gut.
5. Don’t confuse love and abuse. (trauma bond).
6. You are not 6 and not in a Disney movie. Beware of love bombing. You are not in a fairy tale.
7. Be very careful about “magical connection” and “soul mate”.
8. If this relationship moves too fast, it may be risky. The sooner they have you locked in, the sooner they can control you.
9. Turn off the gaslight the first time it gets turned on. Gaslighting is all but impossible to change.
10. Pay attention to the almighty “future fake”. “Someday this or that wonderful thing is going to happen!”
11. Be careful about making overly big sacrifices early in the relationship. Moving far away to be with them or leaving a really good job or dropping out of school.
12. Be very careful when you’re listening to other people. “You’re so lucky”, etc. The voices of other people can fill you with self-doubt. They may be well intentioned but they may not understand narcissistic relationships.

If your basic asks are not heard early in the relationship, you can all but guarantee they’re never going to be heard.

I was sucked in to my marriage by trying to rescue my husbands son from being emotionally abused.

what is the painful emotion is too intense, to sit with it and welcome it

All I have to say is there’s a difference between correlation and causation. I’m only here bc of insomnia

What mental strategies do you use to help get through the low periods of a long run or race?

-hold them accountable
If they are narcissistic they will probably blow up.
Also this is not a big issue in a normal healthy relationship!

-don’t let them shame you
This is used to control your emotions, ideas and overall your life in order to ultimately avoid accountability.

-SETTING BOUNDARIES ISN’T RUDE
You have every right to set your own boundaries.
You’re going to be told that you’re being rude, that you’re overreacting, that you’re being mean or a bitch/pussy (narcissistic friends, partners or suitors might be more likely to say those things).
They are going to tell you that you’re disrespectful, that you’re out of control, that you’re not in the position/have no right to set those boundaries, that you’re <> because <>, that you’re betraying your family (I’ve been told this by my aunt, grandma and by my own mother).

-you are not required to perform certain actions to win their love
You are worthy of love regardless of what you do!

-you are not required to babysit their emotionally immature ass
For example: if they can’t accept that you’re going out to have fun because they’re too jealous, “worried”, envious or “protective”, please don’t give up that party, or that vacation or that meeting you want to attend.
Please don’t adjust your life to their insecurities and fears.

Fairy Tale: You are a young handsome guy you find yourself in a foreign country all is strange and you are lonely while watching sexy girls around you everywhere but you are not allowed to get close or touch uhhh! Then just before it is time to leave you take a wrong turn enter the wrong office and there she is so breathtaking omg! But you do not think anything further! You booked a tour just 2 weeks before leaving for home…You have no idea that this encounter will change your life forever (Karma)…you had not chosen her,she choose you! Fate intervened as you were drawn into a beautiful spell… 52 years ago and still bleeding heart

The cat video IS NOT FUNNY if this your favourite funny cat video you have a sick and twisted mind…watching a cat get garrotted on a leash is not funny it’s a pitty the cat didn’t shred that guy’s lolly bag

This fucking sucks. Everything just sucks big balls. Everything is perfect in life except for my shitty brain. I’m so depressed, I can feel my brain decaying. People my age should be happy and fun, this is just horrible.

I have paid for less help. Thank you so much you are called to this job. I have an over active brain adult adhd I do admit in now. Any suggestions?

Thank you so much for your videos, the funny videos link are not in the description.

Only use your bed for sex and sleep wtf what if a 8 year old was watching this

Hmm, monotasking… never heard of this before, but it basically sounds the same as mindfulness

“tired of living like this but he don’t wanna die cause he isn’t notorious yet.’
-daveed diggs, clipping.

Interesting points, you make Dr Rumani. Whilst I agree with your 11 points, you seem to assume that friends voicing an opinion on a relationship a trauma bonded narc victim might now be in are always well meaning in the advice they give to try and help steer someone away from a bad relationship. Some won’t be that nice. Unfortunately, narc victims are not just strong magnets for the narc partners you speak of in this video, they are also magnets for narc friends too, who simply don’t want the best for them at all, whatever they say to the contrary. Some probably see the red flags just as clearly as the narc victim does but doesn’t want to see/believe, and who seeks advice and reassurance from who they thought was a good friend and confidante. Instead, of giving useful advice to get out a bad relationship, a narc friend will gladly steer them in the wrong direction owing to envy and spite. Narc friends want to see their friends unhappy so they have something to gossip and bitch about to others and to get narc supply from the constant reassurances and opportunities to be a confidante in their friend’s distress whilst secretly relishing every moment and getting high on it almost like a drug. They don’t want happy friends who are content with their life and drama free and, god forbid, doing better than they are. I know this all too well. All that does is make the narc feel inadequate and inferior. The very last thing they want. There’s only one Queen Bee is a hive, and that’s the narc. So if a friend is going to steal some attention seeking advice from them, they may as well have some fun as a reward.

I have become highly alert to narcissistic people now and, like you suggest, I get out very quickly once a red flag is signalled, which happens pretty soon into any relationship. If the signs are not that obvious, but much more subtle and so I’m not sure (covert narcs are better at hiding who they are), I find the most reliable indicator is how I feel when I am not with them. Unlike with a non-narc friend, narc behaviours and words will somehow cause me to start researching things pretty quickly trying to fathom out why I don’t feel good in their company even when they’ve seemed nice, supportive, friendly, giving, etc. Something doesn’t feel right. With the true friend all behaviours and words are taken for what they are and I only think good thoughts about seeing them again not dread or doubt. With a non-narc the idea of researching anything by googling a behaviour or examining an action or words spoken doesn’t even enter my head.

Narcissistic folks are SO PUSHY! If you dont answer their text, they call. You dont answer? They show up and knock on the door. You don’t answer the front door, they go to the back door. You dont answer? They knock on your window. Still nothing? They will go as far as calling the police and using the excuse of a “welfare check”. They don’t care how u are. They just need access to you and will stop at nothing to get their supply. It’s hard to resist. You want to reward them so they will JUST GO AWAY. I’m an empath, raised by a stereotypical narcissist father (due to his own issues of paternal suicide, alcoholism, orphaned, etc. When my mom passed I got very close with my father. I’ve seen now that he’s been misunderstood as he’s the product of a father that committed suicide when dad was 6, alcoholic mother, poverty, etc. It all comes back to shame. I love him so much that him and I have gotten so close as adults and it’s been the honor of my adult life to meet my dad as an adult. But I’m dealing with a severe codependency to him because he was always my protector. So much more to write but I realized my father wanted to get better. He didnt understand what he was doing because his life has been PTSD since age 6. Rooted in shame. He needed someone, and it ended up being me, to tell him he is worth everything and hes got a beautiful heart and spirit. And he does. Hes my bff. But growing up before he evolved with wisdom was RUFF lol

What about some advice on making a fueling plan for a marathon or longer. How much gels, solid food, water, sport drink and how do you combine it. Is it ok to run on only water if you get your electrolytes from gels. Does it make sense to eat like 8 bananas and cups of isotone drink  combined with gel…and more water to make the gel go down at the aid stations.

Second time i stand 25sec longer without thinking that I could die. I feel so good after second time ��

16:00 Time out here Dr. Ramani. You are using the pronoun “he” and implying that a man is sending all of these texts. What about women? After a first date your phone blows up! What about telling you that you can’t make any plans for the weekend because she wants to spend every minute with you! When you exhale, she inhales….

First time: a panicked 41 seconds.

I wasn’t hopeful for the second attempt and I felt anxious and I wasn’t confident. The second time: an amazing, one minute and 54 seconds… unbelievable!

I found it difficult to comprehend that the first breath exercise made me feel so panicked, yet the second breath holding exercise, lasted so long and wasn’t as physically, nor emotionally painful as the first. I need to spend some time thinking about this.

Is it weird that I don’t want to improve and just want to feel worse so I’ll eventually completely breakdown and have the courage to kill myself

Hello Dr. Ramani, we love your videos and teachings, and so with that in mind, we’re wondering if you could do a collaboration with The Enlightened Target, who also specializes in NPD teachings.

I have a true friends in a small group. i love to play and waste my time playin football with my friends but i have heart disease, its not tht bad when i was young but my health deteriorated over the years which kinda sad. i dont play football anymore and now i just stay at home doin absolutely nothing.