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Abrams suggests that if you are the overweight wife or husband and you don’t want to lose weight, you can ask your spouse to wait until you are ready to make the change on your own. He also suggests that you offer an offset. An offset may involve investigating whether or not the request for weight loss is really about weight.
So what if the pressure becomes too much to manage. If you decide to end things with your spouse or boyfriend. It might be just the thing to help you slim down. Yep, that’s right. You’ve seen it in the headlines, or maybe you’ve experienced it yourself.
You break up with your boyfriend and you suddenly lose weight. Why does heartbreak cause.If you or your partner needs to lose weight, doctors agree that telling them should be driven by a proper motivation, like concern for their healthy and well-being.
So if you find yourself being asked by your spouse to trim down, don’t despair. Make the most out of the situation by using it as a chance to try a new diet or exercise together.The stress, depression, and other negative factors that you are experiencing may cause you to end up putting on some pounds. Fortunately, The Tampa Divorce Attorneys are here to provide you with some information that will help you lose some weight after you divorce your ex.
Create a Workout Plan.What to do if your spouse or significant other gains weight and you want to leave him/her. First of all, just be honest with your partner.
Maybe you sit down and tell them: “I really love you, and I want desperately to make this relationship to work. For me, that includes each of us taking care of our health and physical appearance.Try to sit down with your spouse within a few days of the incident in order to address it while it is still fresh. Find a calm setting where you two can be alone. Presenting your case in front of friends will make you look wounded and your spouse like a jerk.
Talk with your spouse after he has had time to relax and unwind from work.3 Things to Remember When Your Spouse Lets You Down, by John Hindley Christian Marriage advice and help. Find biblical, helpful Christian resources relating to marriage at Crosswalk.com!Even if you haven’t done anything wrong, your partner has a way of making you feel bad. Whatever the reason may be (unresolved conflicts, lack of trust, etc.), it can really start to drag you down.Work your oblique muscles to slim down the waist and whenever you walk/sit/stand or do whatever, always consciously make an effort to suck in and hold your stomach in.
Do 2 cardio workouts one in the morning and one in the afternoon AND stretch before and afterwards for 10 minutes each. 3 Don’t OVEREAT, you will be OVER weight.”Massaging and kissing the vulva (the external part of the vagina), and touching and caressing before beginning oral sex really helps. Don’t forget the rest of.
Accept that you can’t change your spouse. You can only change yourself and your own reactions. Changing your own behavior may trigger your spouse to want to make changes. Respond differently to difficult situations. If you’ve had the same argument over and over, state that you will not rehash the issue and leave the room.
If you’ve not expressed your feelings previously, share how you.Strangely enough, people often need to put down others to build their own self esteem. It also is a mean in which to manipulate and create dependency in relationships. In a healthy relationship, criticism for your personal, physical or mental attributes should be addressed in a constructive forum.People are disappointing.
That’s reality. And usually the people closest to us are the greatest source of disappointment to us. When Adam saw his bride, he sang with delight over her: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Genesis 2 v 23).
Here at last was a companion for him—a wife he could delight in. Men and women have sung about love, compatibility, romance and.Weight loss when you’re married should be a partner activity. Tell your spouse exactly what you’re hoping to do—like lose 10 pounds, eliminate belly fat—and then explain how you plan to do it.
Many times disagreements in marriage come from miscommunication, so being clear about your goals upfront can keep that from happening.So you have to tell them. Without anger or resentment, explain to them that their sudden decision to back off makes you feel unimportant. You can add that from that point on, their word means nothing to you, because of their tendency to let you down.
If you don’t tell them, how will they know?
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86 comments
one thing that triggers me when Canadians say the word ‘about’ is the over emphasizing on the ‘o’ vowel.
The “source” is pornography. Guys want to change girls due to the fact that It’s what they see in porn.
I needed to watch this video. He met me fat and wants me to be skinnier now.
My boyfriend is just a little bit tubby. I don’t want him to lose his belly though…it’s so cuddly and warm lmao. He seems to enjoy having someone who doesn’t care about his weight and loves him for him.
Loosing weight for him? Hell no. I actually lost a lot of pounds in 2 years and my hubby is actually not really happy with it. Go figure.
I know mine wants a divorce but I’m tired of trying. She has everything and still bitching. I don’t have nothing left.
I’m going through the same thing except my wife is having an affair. She moved out with my kids and has lost almost 40lbs in 3 months. She constantly lies to me and has been trying to turn my kids against me. I don’t understand what is going on or how to fix it
No! I would Have to lose it for my self and nobody else. My bf just asked me too lose weight I told him no. And that he has to wait until I want to do It my self. If he doesn’t like it then there’s the door.
My issue is my in laws….they can’t stay in their own marriage!!!!..
They have too much to say about stuff that is not their business…. the men in his family are so disrespectful to their wives (cheating, talking down to them, controlling them)….I was raised to be strong and don’t allow a man to abusive emotional, physically, financially, and so (My husband doesn’t do this)…. but he always wants to be the peace maker instead of telling them to shut the hell up when they are rude to me
My wife wants a divorce and I just have to make a move. We have kids and she is not capable of supporting herself.
I have 5/5 signs from the video
I like tamera. She talks so well and she provides a whole new personality
Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship and he saw my ig pictures and said im getting thinner and how happy he is for me… I’m still the same weight as i was when we last saw each other. I’ve always been happy with how my body looked but just got clear to me that maybe he wasn’t. So now i’m just so upset and feel like i need to go to the gym asap and lose weight. I’ve been crying all day and I don’t know why.
If both compadres are on the Twinkie side how y’all expect to play 2getha
Yes I would because most times being forty to fifty pounds heavier most times means being more of a health risk.
That doesnt work, women dont like to talk about weight loss, and men are visual
I lost 100 lbs for my partner and then lost 160 pounds when I dumped him.
Why babysitting the cheater?
Knowing the true is the first block to rebuild!
I want to lose weight but nice and slowly and sensibly everytime I try and do it everyone elses way I end up super hungry and overeating!! So I am doing it my way as it always worked for me.
I’d lose weight if it means me being healthier. Also if someone walks into the relationship as a 10, she should stay that way. It’s not fair to him not to.
What if these signs to me seem so obvious however to my s.o each sign like EVERYTHING else gets ignored. Some people are just not compatible together. My husband couldn’t even tell someone what his wife does for a living…smh
Wowwww this hit me ��i recently gain 30 lbs and my bf is bugging me for my weight. I just feel bad because i know he’ll use it as an excuse someday if he cheats..
If you’re gonna lose or gain weight, do it because you love God yourself and to be healthy is what matters anyway.
My wife and I are separated. So we basically haven’t had sex in five months. And have no intimacy right now. How can I resolve this and get things going again between us?
here come the sexist comments about how women are complicated
Women are visual creatures to I hate when they say men are visual creatures like women aren’t too
Heck yeah I’ll lose weight for my partner, and he’ll get a six pack for me ��������. It’s called compromise.
What about saying, “I want a divorce” I am over it….told him and he does not believe me….He has a narcissistic personality disorder and I am tired of bearing it after 18 years!
If my partner asked me to lose weight I would definitely do so (obviously within reason). Chances are I wanted to anyway and I needed a little push.
I m in trouble with my husband,we r not compatible in any way,we always fight,but for me,it’s very tough for making a desicision to move on from this relationship
My bf eats all un healthy stuff & then complains abt being fat (which he isn’t)… but it does bother me when he eats like 6-12 donuts in 1 sitting & nothing healthy. I’m the healthiest eater in my family, i don’t have a sweet tooth, my dad says i nvr did. So, i’m just looking out for my bf & my dad bc they both eat so unhealthy. I’m afraid what’ll happen to them in the future
I need help i new in marriage life i got married with my daughter father n he abounded us feb week of valantine week because i text my ex boy child hood n my guys friend behind his back he said he give me divorce i am nerous n scared
I can appreciate this. I want to get fit BECAUSE of the goals I choose.
I would. Because I already kno how he feels about having too much weight. Also i would kno it would come from a health stand point as well. And wanting me to be healthy. So in return I would kno it’s also for me in becoming healthier.
Marriage is for suckers!!!!!!! Just date her until she gives you a ultimatum, then dip out and find a new one, woman come a dime a dozen. If you got money a nice home and cars what the “F” do you need to get married for!!!!!! Get fixed so she can’t tie you down with kids and live happily without all the BS marriage responsibilities!!!!!
I commend Loni on her goal to lose another 30 pounds. Keep it up beautiful. And Tamers story is just awesome. I commend her on her changes as well.
Yes I agree with Adrienne. It comes down to the level of health or lack of health due to the weight.
Heck yes! Am doing this right now because I believe when you let yourself go, you let the relationship go too #fatisnotcute
On the subject of accountability, there’s probably a better way to handle that… more like a weekly meeting together where you review your goals and the choices you’ve made towards them. So you can ask your spouse at the meeting before thanksgiving, what’s your plan for tackling this going to be, and you can ask him the week after how well he stuck to his plan or if he otherwise made good choices, but then don’t actually say anything when you’re at thanksgiving dinner, because that just turns you into a nag and if someone does overhear, it’s still humiliating. You can also say, what form of support would you like from me. The great thing about this is that it can go both ways, you can help each other with other goals as well, you can even make one of your goals how well you’re supporting them their way in theirs rather than yours.
My husband d oesnt want to resolve anything. He’s cheated, abused me emotional and physical. I don’t know what to do. I’m so stuck I’ve been with him since 16… and now 28/29 I don’t know… how or why or what went wrong.
Yah your right on arguing every day and no sex and arguing about money zero affection.
My husband works so much that he no longer has time to spend with our family, he works so much he won’t/can’t go to counseling with me, what do I do?
I hate to say this but most people will not get a divorce unless they have something else in mind. Yes I mean cheating. I was one of those guys that said she is not that kind of a person. These symptoms he talks about are way worse.. The fighting, she looked for reasons to fight and it wasn’t a fight she would lose her shit.. I think they want to make themselves feel better about cheating so picking fights is a way in her or his mind to make the cheating right. It literally went from a great marriage to I am the worst person in the world. If they all of a sudden carry their phone with them any and everywhere they go. She would go out and I would be in bed, she came busting into the room accusing me of following her, so she felt guilt…I never ever followed her anywhere. When i moved out, she had him over within 5 minutes of me leaving.. I went thru all this shit and less than a year, she was trying to get me back and when I refused she acted like I was such an asshole. We have a daughter so I had to see her every once in awhile, she would constantly tell me she never cheated, but when I was at the house she could have cared less what i thought.. It is just a shitty situation all together and it will happen again so I made the choice of not getting back with her, 6 years later she still hates me but I don’t give a crap, what she did to me in those 6 months where unforgivable.
I agree it’s a win win but honestly I’m getting the motivation from wanting to get super hot body wise because I want to get more attention because he is throwing it in my face how much attention he is getting from other women now and comparing me to them.
If they called me fat hell freaking no haha if I chose to because I was wanting to for them but came up with idea myself then yes.. big difference…im not losing weight for someone to choose me crazy as hell lol
My husband wants sex he does nothing no work inside or outside only have sex chats with his online Girlfriends. I hope he dies
People don’t want to be honest with themselves and others. We all want to be with an attractive spouse, part of that attraction is aesthetics. Yes personality, honesty, bringing resources to the table and meeting expectations are important; but a relationship will quickly go south (or have built up resentment) if one partner just gives up on how they look. Nobody expects someone to maintain a lean physique forever, but at least be active and try to eat healthy. Most Americans are NOT doing that, and typically get complacent and stagnant in a relationship.
My husband wants a divorce he just had a 6 month affair and now is blaming me for my past infidelities for him leaving and wanting to file tomorrow. We have 2 kids and been together 22 years, inwish there was something i could do to change his mind I’m completely heartbroken help
I agree with you on guys have a type. but I just tell the guy hey I’m a big girl but if you like big girls that’s a plus but if you don’t oh well but I feel if a girl is going to workout do it for herself. not for a guy. she should feel sexy no matter what people say. but liked the video. awesome!��
Lily, what if your spouse is convinced that they can’t lose weight? Her excuses are: “I’m not an exercising person”, “it’s a mystery condition from having 3 kids” (yet, she’s not even trying), “walking might help, but that’s boring”, “I don’t like cycling”, “I can’t use the treadmill we own because it’s in the basement…. And that’s your space”. She buys the household groceries and junk food for herself and the kids. I’ve told her that I’m not attracted to her like this… I live a healthy lifestyle and have been losing weight all summer. Do I just keep trying to encourage her? I feel resentful.
hiii I m at the stage where my husband don’t wanted to stay wid me…we do have so many issue we are not talking to each other that much….we got married this year only its almost 11months
I’ve been married for almost 27 years, and with him 29. I was raised “old school” which means I take care of the kids, house, and husband. I always laid out his clothes and made sure he had hot meals etc., but 2 years ago I got sick. Because of my illness I haven’t been able to do my “wifely duties”, if you know what I mean, plus I’m losing use of my hands and hearing. My husband told me on June 3rd, immediately upon waking up, that we don’t have a marriage anymore, and if he had a place to go he’d be gone. I am still in shock at this, and I’ve not stopped doing everything I was doing, except for the sex. He always wanted it knowing I couldn’t and then get angry at me, but to leave over it or leave because I’m ill is beyond painful. He never let me work because he didn’t trust day cares, so now I have no job skills to support my self or my youngest who’s 13. Thank God my other 2 are older! To be honest I don’t know if I want to try and save it, I’m 45 now and if he can walk away after all these years over sex or illness…..maybe he should go
Agree with Ade. I would lose if he came to me about it but moreso cuz I’m trying to lose and hate how I feel. He loves me either way but I’m with Tam. Once you start having health issues, that’s motivation to change your LIFESTYLE. Glad you said this Tam cuz sometimes your numbers could be high and you feel fine.
Forget about this simp nonsense. Don’t get married. But if you have been fooled into the marriage scam and you think she’ll divorce you, you better watch out because she’s looking to rob you blind.
Better advice would be to withdraw all your money and hide it somewhere. Sell everything you own for cash, convert it to gold. Hide the gold. Destroy anything you can’t sell. That way she gets nothing.
Also consider legally destroying your birth certificate and living in a caravan park or somewhere where you have no official address.
Also if she cut her hair short all of a sudden that means she is making herself unattractive to you on purpose. i.e she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Which is basically the only benefit you had, so be done with her. The random short haircut is your visual identifier and you can start the master plan right there if she does that.
Never been married because I know a bad deal when I see one. But you married guys can learn a lot from those who have made the same mistakes.
i told my boyfriend when we started dating how fat could i get before he stopped finding me attractive? He said gain 20 kilos. I gained 60 kilos and he still hasn’t stopped finding me attractive. I am trying to loose it but i learned i have PCOS and a severe kind so it’s really difficult.
For those of you who also struggle with high cholesterol, you can diminish the amount of cholesterol by not consuming any animal products.
I think attraction plays a role in a relationship. I’m not attracted to people who are noticeably overweight. If I dated a partner and they became overweight I don’t think I’d have the same attraction to them and I think our physical relationship would get stale. Now, the physical side to a real action ship isn’t everything, but it’s necessary for me. I don’t think I could stay with a partner I’m no longer attracted to.
If he was scared his wife was going to leave him, that is NOT the marriage for you. Also she told her man he getting fat, i wonder how she really said it like his health yeah but saying “babe you getting fat” okay but how you helping me. Anyways i would lose the weight for ME and MYSELF only. I want to look good, thicker, skinner what ever for me not anyone else
Im soo shocked she told that story without crying!! well done Tam Tam!!!
This is such a double standard…when women gain weight we don’t say nothing to y’all
What if you are the 2nd priority and mother in law is1st. Cause of that he is ready to leave you and move out with his mother
Tamera is 39??!!! She still looks 27!!!! I hope I look as amazing as her.:)
I didn’t know Tamera ever weighted that much. She does look better with weight bc she looks curvier.
I think spouse is such a stupid word…it always reminds me of spout…My spouse has got a spout.
No one would look at Tamera and tell her shes a candidate for pre diabetes or high chlosterol but they will do that Lonnie….
The 5th point is garbage. I know a lot of my married friends who spend a good proportion of night time on international business. Not to disturb their spouses’ and kids’ sleep what they generally do is they go to another room in their house and work from there. I don’t think they mean not taking interest in their family affair.
Kinda hard to treat them nice when they’ve betrayed you and you just want to cut their D off… He wants his mistress as his new wife. Seems pointless to try. Even though I don’t want my family to collapse and most importantly explode my sons world….
I would because being fat causes alot of problems for your health and you shouldn’t want to be a burden on him hell im on the process of losing weight now (im 21 im not as big a my pik on here ANYMORE )HOWEVER if you are happy with your weight dont change but dont get mad if some one you’re with tells you about yourself and if you dont get it together then they leave Its your fault unless you are in a position like being handicapped and cant.
I can’t listen to this one. I got to 2:27 and paused it and dropped to my knees. I can feel his pain. I’m praying for this guy. I’m in the exact same situation. Married 20 years and together 28 years. We are separated. And this has to be one of the hardest and painful times I’m experiencing. I’ll listen to the rest tomorrow. Praying for you buddy. I’m sorry you are going through this. Keep the faith.
I was getting fatter a few years ago and my boyfriend told me about it at first I was pissed but now I have the body I wanted all along ����
My husband is so complaining and irritated all the time, he asks me to leave one habit of mine so that he can be happy and when i do leave that habit he come up with a new complain and reason to hate me
I mean some gf tell their bf to get a job. Ladies don’t get offended when you are reminded to hit the gym.
My wife still converses with me and has intentions to remain my best friend, but there was some good advice in here that applies. The bit about positive and safe feelings when together leads to her thinking positively things about me when away….that was a huge eye opener as I hadn’t thought of it that way before. Good stuff as always guys!
What can women do if they’re too old for sex and sex is even possible without some preparation it can be difficult when you’re in your sixties…. but I want to be intimate with my husband
Man I’m trying to get my girl to loose weight and I’m just going to keep it real all of that trying to beat around the bush with it shit does not work I swear to got you have to just tell her either she will sink or swim we only have one life to live don’t sit there miserable because you don’t want to heart there feelings
Loni is great, in this video she said that she has lost 30 pounds and that she is aiming yo lose another 30.
yep..tired #3… but we have sex all the time….. all the time..all the time…and we’ve been married 30 years…
I can relate to everything in this video. I have been feeling I would be happier alone instead of with someone who is so depressed and lacks all confidence in himself. He doesn’t try to change and leaves it up to me. We lack common interests and don’t spend time together. The only reason we are still together is because of our kids but this marriage is dragging us both down. I try to find ways to fix this, and when I’m the only one doing this, it’s angering. We’ve already done marriage counseling. It made me realize how much I don’t want to be together. Ugh, I’m at a dead end.
I love your videos and have been binge watching!! You are awesome! Very attractive as well!
When it comes to weight….women get so salty…like wtf. Get over it and lose the fucking weight.
What if he told you when you got together that he loved thick women and he has been heavy the entire time we dated but when he lost a LITTLE weight all the sudden your thickness is an issue?
As a husband, I did just that, I told her I will be with her every step of the way, but she said ‘NO”.
A year later we are divorced, she is at the gym every day. Most women are willing to lose weight after divorce not during married. And yes, we men are driven by visuals more so than women.
Thank you for giving me a different perspective. I gotta be honest my man picked the worst time to ask me (trying to be sexy for him). We’ve been together for almost three years and he notices I respond more when he is blunt than supportive. But it still hurts because I know I need to change.
Leaving someone cuz they r getting fat? Lol umm i mean lets be realistic alot of women get comfy & let them selves go real bad lol i wouldnt find it offensive if my man told me in a nice way, but if he try to tell me to lose weight or he’ll leave me then DEUCES✌✌✌ lol but it is important to not let yourself go either thoo
Nah, If I’m not facing health risks, I’m not losing no weight.
I’ll drop you quicker than I’ll drop the weight.
Its not the same.
Society treats weight as another point to make women feel less valuable, less human…
I lost 80lbs, I can’t say people always used to really look at me as a person in stead of a freak.
I love your videos! You touch on subjects that no one else does and you do it In an eloquent manner.