Table of Contents:
Signs Your Spouse Wants A Divorce (And How To Stop It)
Video taken from the channel: Brad Browning
Why A Husband Says His Wife’s Weight Loss Led To Him Losing His Desire
Video taken from the channel: Dr. Phil
My Spouse Wants Nothing To Do With Me… What Can I Do?
Video taken from the channel: Marriage Helper
Marriage Monday: How Inspire Your Spouse To Lose Weight
Video taken from the channel: Lily Rubio
Help! My Husband is Too Heavy! How to Help Your Husband Lose Weight
Video taken from the channel: Sheila Wray Gregoire
When Your Boyfriend Tells You to Lose Weight | The Right Way to React
Video taken from the channel: Mindful Attraction 2.0
Would You Lose Weight for Your Partner?
Video taken from the channel: The Real Daytime
Abrams suggests that if you are the overweight wife or husband and you don’t want to lose weight, you can ask your spouse to wait until you are ready to make the change on your own. He also suggests that you offer an offset. An offset may involve investigating whether or not the request for weight loss is really about weight.
So what if the pressure becomes too much to manage. If you decide to end things with your spouse or boyfriend. It might be just the thing to help you slim down. Yep, that’s right. You’ve seen it in the headlines, or maybe you’ve experienced it yourself.
You break up with your boyfriend and you suddenly lose weight. Why does heartbreak cause.If you or your partner needs to lose weight, doctors agree that telling them should be driven by a proper motivation, like concern for their healthy and well-being.
So if you find yourself being asked by your spouse to trim down, don’t despair. Make the most out of the situation by using it as a chance to try a new diet or exercise together.The stress, depression, and other negative factors that you are experiencing may cause you to end up putting on some pounds. Fortunately, The Tampa Divorce Attorneys are here to provide you with some information that will help you lose some weight after you divorce your ex.
Create a Workout Plan.What to do if your spouse or significant other gains weight and you want to leave him/her. First of all, just be honest with your partner.
Maybe you sit down and tell them: “I really love you, and I want desperately to make this relationship to work. For me, that includes each of us taking care of our health and physical appearance.Try to sit down with your spouse within a few days of the incident in order to address it while it is still fresh. Find a calm setting where you two can be alone. Presenting your case in front of friends will make you look wounded and your spouse like a jerk.
Talk with your spouse after he has had time to relax and unwind from work.3 Things to Remember When Your Spouse Lets You Down, by John Hindley Christian Marriage advice and help. Find biblical, helpful Christian resources relating to marriage at Crosswalk.com!Even if you haven’t done anything wrong, your partner has a way of making you feel bad. Whatever the reason may be (unresolved conflicts, lack of trust, etc.), it can really start to drag you down.Work your oblique muscles to slim down the waist and whenever you walk/sit/stand or do whatever, always consciously make an effort to suck in and hold your stomach in.
Do 2 cardio workouts one in the morning and one in the afternoon AND stretch before and afterwards for 10 minutes each. 3 Don’t OVEREAT, you will be OVER weight.”Massaging and kissing the vulva (the external part of the vagina), and touching and caressing before beginning oral sex really helps. Don’t forget the rest of.
Accept that you can’t change your spouse. You can only change yourself and your own reactions. Changing your own behavior may trigger your spouse to want to make changes. Respond differently to difficult situations. If you’ve had the same argument over and over, state that you will not rehash the issue and leave the room.
If you’ve not expressed your feelings previously, share how you.Strangely enough, people often need to put down others to build their own self esteem. It also is a mean in which to manipulate and create dependency in relationships. In a healthy relationship, criticism for your personal, physical or mental attributes should be addressed in a constructive forum.People are disappointing.
That’s reality. And usually the people closest to us are the greatest source of disappointment to us. When Adam saw his bride, he sang with delight over her: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Genesis 2 v 23).
Here at last was a companion for him—a wife he could delight in. Men and women have sung about love, compatibility, romance and.Weight loss when you’re married should be a partner activity. Tell your spouse exactly what you’re hoping to do—like lose 10 pounds, eliminate belly fat—and then explain how you plan to do it.
Many times disagreements in marriage come from miscommunication, so being clear about your goals upfront can keep that from happening.So you have to tell them. Without anger or resentment, explain to them that their sudden decision to back off makes you feel unimportant. You can add that from that point on, their word means nothing to you, because of their tendency to let you down.
If you don’t tell them, how will they know?
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195 comments
one thing that triggers me when Canadians say the word ‘about’ is the over emphasizing on the ‘o’ vowel.
The “source” is pornography. Guys want to change girls due to the fact that It’s what they see in porn.
I needed to watch this video. He met me fat and wants me to be skinnier now.
My boyfriend is just a little bit tubby. I don’t want him to lose his belly though…it’s so cuddly and warm lmao. He seems to enjoy having someone who doesn’t care about his weight and loves him for him.
Loosing weight for him? Hell no. I actually lost a lot of pounds in 2 years and my hubby is actually not really happy with it. Go figure.
I know mine wants a divorce but I’m tired of trying. She has everything and still bitching. I don’t have nothing left.
I’m going through the same thing except my wife is having an affair. She moved out with my kids and has lost almost 40lbs in 3 months. She constantly lies to me and has been trying to turn my kids against me. I don’t understand what is going on or how to fix it
No! I would Have to lose it for my self and nobody else. My bf just asked me too lose weight I told him no. And that he has to wait until I want to do It my self. If he doesn’t like it then there’s the door.
My issue is my in laws….they can’t stay in their own marriage!!!!..
They have too much to say about stuff that is not their business…. the men in his family are so disrespectful to their wives (cheating, talking down to them, controlling them)….I was raised to be strong and don’t allow a man to abusive emotional, physically, financially, and so (My husband doesn’t do this)…. but he always wants to be the peace maker instead of telling them to shut the hell up when they are rude to me
My wife wants a divorce and I just have to make a move. We have kids and she is not capable of supporting herself.
I have 5/5 signs from the video
I like tamera. She talks so well and she provides a whole new personality
Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship and he saw my ig pictures and said im getting thinner and how happy he is for me… I’m still the same weight as i was when we last saw each other. I’ve always been happy with how my body looked but just got clear to me that maybe he wasn’t. So now i’m just so upset and feel like i need to go to the gym asap and lose weight. I’ve been crying all day and I don’t know why.
If both compadres are on the Twinkie side how y’all expect to play 2getha
Yes I would because most times being forty to fifty pounds heavier most times means being more of a health risk.
That doesnt work, women dont like to talk about weight loss, and men are visual
I lost 100 lbs for my partner and then lost 160 pounds when I dumped him.
Why babysitting the cheater?
Knowing the true is the first block to rebuild!
I want to lose weight but nice and slowly and sensibly everytime I try and do it everyone elses way I end up super hungry and overeating!! So I am doing it my way as it always worked for me.
I’d lose weight if it means me being healthier. Also if someone walks into the relationship as a 10, she should stay that way. It’s not fair to him not to.
What if these signs to me seem so obvious however to my s.o each sign like EVERYTHING else gets ignored. Some people are just not compatible together. My husband couldn’t even tell someone what his wife does for a living…smh
Wowwww this hit me ��i recently gain 30 lbs and my bf is bugging me for my weight. I just feel bad because i know he’ll use it as an excuse someday if he cheats..
If you’re gonna lose or gain weight, do it because you love God yourself and to be healthy is what matters anyway.
My wife and I are separated. So we basically haven’t had sex in five months. And have no intimacy right now. How can I resolve this and get things going again between us?
here come the sexist comments about how women are complicated
Women are visual creatures to I hate when they say men are visual creatures like women aren’t too
Heck yeah I’ll lose weight for my partner, and he’ll get a six pack for me ��������. It’s called compromise.
What about saying, “I want a divorce” I am over it….told him and he does not believe me….He has a narcissistic personality disorder and I am tired of bearing it after 18 years!
If my partner asked me to lose weight I would definitely do so (obviously within reason). Chances are I wanted to anyway and I needed a little push.
I m in trouble with my husband,we r not compatible in any way,we always fight,but for me,it’s very tough for making a desicision to move on from this relationship
My bf eats all un healthy stuff & then complains abt being fat (which he isn’t)… but it does bother me when he eats like 6-12 donuts in 1 sitting & nothing healthy. I’m the healthiest eater in my family, i don’t have a sweet tooth, my dad says i nvr did. So, i’m just looking out for my bf & my dad bc they both eat so unhealthy. I’m afraid what’ll happen to them in the future
I need help i new in marriage life i got married with my daughter father n he abounded us feb week of valantine week because i text my ex boy child hood n my guys friend behind his back he said he give me divorce i am nerous n scared
I can appreciate this. I want to get fit BECAUSE of the goals I choose.
I would. Because I already kno how he feels about having too much weight. Also i would kno it would come from a health stand point as well. And wanting me to be healthy. So in return I would kno it’s also for me in becoming healthier.
Marriage is for suckers!!!!!!! Just date her until she gives you a ultimatum, then dip out and find a new one, woman come a dime a dozen. If you got money a nice home and cars what the “F” do you need to get married for!!!!!! Get fixed so she can’t tie you down with kids and live happily without all the BS marriage responsibilities!!!!!
I commend Loni on her goal to lose another 30 pounds. Keep it up beautiful. And Tamers story is just awesome. I commend her on her changes as well.
Yes I agree with Adrienne. It comes down to the level of health or lack of health due to the weight.
Heck yes! Am doing this right now because I believe when you let yourself go, you let the relationship go too #fatisnotcute
On the subject of accountability, there’s probably a better way to handle that… more like a weekly meeting together where you review your goals and the choices you’ve made towards them. So you can ask your spouse at the meeting before thanksgiving, what’s your plan for tackling this going to be, and you can ask him the week after how well he stuck to his plan or if he otherwise made good choices, but then don’t actually say anything when you’re at thanksgiving dinner, because that just turns you into a nag and if someone does overhear, it’s still humiliating. You can also say, what form of support would you like from me. The great thing about this is that it can go both ways, you can help each other with other goals as well, you can even make one of your goals how well you’re supporting them their way in theirs rather than yours.
My husband d oesnt want to resolve anything. He’s cheated, abused me emotional and physical. I don’t know what to do. I’m so stuck I’ve been with him since 16… and now 28/29 I don’t know… how or why or what went wrong.
Yah your right on arguing every day and no sex and arguing about money zero affection.
My husband works so much that he no longer has time to spend with our family, he works so much he won’t/can’t go to counseling with me, what do I do?
I hate to say this but most people will not get a divorce unless they have something else in mind. Yes I mean cheating. I was one of those guys that said she is not that kind of a person. These symptoms he talks about are way worse.. The fighting, she looked for reasons to fight and it wasn’t a fight she would lose her shit.. I think they want to make themselves feel better about cheating so picking fights is a way in her or his mind to make the cheating right. It literally went from a great marriage to I am the worst person in the world. If they all of a sudden carry their phone with them any and everywhere they go. She would go out and I would be in bed, she came busting into the room accusing me of following her, so she felt guilt…I never ever followed her anywhere. When i moved out, she had him over within 5 minutes of me leaving.. I went thru all this shit and less than a year, she was trying to get me back and when I refused she acted like I was such an asshole. We have a daughter so I had to see her every once in awhile, she would constantly tell me she never cheated, but when I was at the house she could have cared less what i thought.. It is just a shitty situation all together and it will happen again so I made the choice of not getting back with her, 6 years later she still hates me but I don’t give a crap, what she did to me in those 6 months where unforgivable.
I agree it’s a win win but honestly I’m getting the motivation from wanting to get super hot body wise because I want to get more attention because he is throwing it in my face how much attention he is getting from other women now and comparing me to them.
If they called me fat hell freaking no haha if I chose to because I was wanting to for them but came up with idea myself then yes.. big difference…im not losing weight for someone to choose me crazy as hell lol
My husband wants sex he does nothing no work inside or outside only have sex chats with his online Girlfriends. I hope he dies
People don’t want to be honest with themselves and others. We all want to be with an attractive spouse, part of that attraction is aesthetics. Yes personality, honesty, bringing resources to the table and meeting expectations are important; but a relationship will quickly go south (or have built up resentment) if one partner just gives up on how they look. Nobody expects someone to maintain a lean physique forever, but at least be active and try to eat healthy. Most Americans are NOT doing that, and typically get complacent and stagnant in a relationship.
My husband wants a divorce he just had a 6 month affair and now is blaming me for my past infidelities for him leaving and wanting to file tomorrow. We have 2 kids and been together 22 years, inwish there was something i could do to change his mind I’m completely heartbroken help
I agree with you on guys have a type. but I just tell the guy hey I’m a big girl but if you like big girls that’s a plus but if you don’t oh well but I feel if a girl is going to workout do it for herself. not for a guy. she should feel sexy no matter what people say. but liked the video. awesome!��
Lily, what if your spouse is convinced that they can’t lose weight? Her excuses are: “I’m not an exercising person”, “it’s a mystery condition from having 3 kids” (yet, she’s not even trying), “walking might help, but that’s boring”, “I don’t like cycling”, “I can’t use the treadmill we own because it’s in the basement…. And that’s your space”. She buys the household groceries and junk food for herself and the kids. I’ve told her that I’m not attracted to her like this… I live a healthy lifestyle and have been losing weight all summer. Do I just keep trying to encourage her? I feel resentful.
hiii I m at the stage where my husband don’t wanted to stay wid me…we do have so many issue we are not talking to each other that much….we got married this year only its almost 11months
I’ve been married for almost 27 years, and with him 29. I was raised “old school” which means I take care of the kids, house, and husband. I always laid out his clothes and made sure he had hot meals etc., but 2 years ago I got sick. Because of my illness I haven’t been able to do my “wifely duties”, if you know what I mean, plus I’m losing use of my hands and hearing. My husband told me on June 3rd, immediately upon waking up, that we don’t have a marriage anymore, and if he had a place to go he’d be gone. I am still in shock at this, and I’ve not stopped doing everything I was doing, except for the sex. He always wanted it knowing I couldn’t and then get angry at me, but to leave over it or leave because I’m ill is beyond painful. He never let me work because he didn’t trust day cares, so now I have no job skills to support my self or my youngest who’s 13. Thank God my other 2 are older! To be honest I don’t know if I want to try and save it, I’m 45 now and if he can walk away after all these years over sex or illness…..maybe he should go
Agree with Ade. I would lose if he came to me about it but moreso cuz I’m trying to lose and hate how I feel. He loves me either way but I’m with Tam. Once you start having health issues, that’s motivation to change your LIFESTYLE. Glad you said this Tam cuz sometimes your numbers could be high and you feel fine.
Forget about this simp nonsense. Don’t get married. But if you have been fooled into the marriage scam and you think she’ll divorce you, you better watch out because she’s looking to rob you blind.
Better advice would be to withdraw all your money and hide it somewhere. Sell everything you own for cash, convert it to gold. Hide the gold. Destroy anything you can’t sell. That way she gets nothing.
Also consider legally destroying your birth certificate and living in a caravan park or somewhere where you have no official address.
Also if she cut her hair short all of a sudden that means she is making herself unattractive to you on purpose. i.e she doesn’t want to have sex with you. Which is basically the only benefit you had, so be done with her. The random short haircut is your visual identifier and you can start the master plan right there if she does that.
Never been married because I know a bad deal when I see one. But you married guys can learn a lot from those who have made the same mistakes.
i told my boyfriend when we started dating how fat could i get before he stopped finding me attractive? He said gain 20 kilos. I gained 60 kilos and he still hasn’t stopped finding me attractive. I am trying to loose it but i learned i have PCOS and a severe kind so it’s really difficult.
For those of you who also struggle with high cholesterol, you can diminish the amount of cholesterol by not consuming any animal products.
I think attraction plays a role in a relationship. I’m not attracted to people who are noticeably overweight. If I dated a partner and they became overweight I don’t think I’d have the same attraction to them and I think our physical relationship would get stale. Now, the physical side to a real action ship isn’t everything, but it’s necessary for me. I don’t think I could stay with a partner I’m no longer attracted to.
If he was scared his wife was going to leave him, that is NOT the marriage for you. Also she told her man he getting fat, i wonder how she really said it like his health yeah but saying “babe you getting fat” okay but how you helping me. Anyways i would lose the weight for ME and MYSELF only. I want to look good, thicker, skinner what ever for me not anyone else
Im soo shocked she told that story without crying!! well done Tam Tam!!!
This is such a double standard…when women gain weight we don’t say nothing to y’all
What if you are the 2nd priority and mother in law is1st. Cause of that he is ready to leave you and move out with his mother
Tamera is 39??!!! She still looks 27!!!! I hope I look as amazing as her.:)
I didn’t know Tamera ever weighted that much. She does look better with weight bc she looks curvier.
I think spouse is such a stupid word…it always reminds me of spout…My spouse has got a spout.
No one would look at Tamera and tell her shes a candidate for pre diabetes or high chlosterol but they will do that Lonnie….
The 5th point is garbage. I know a lot of my married friends who spend a good proportion of night time on international business. Not to disturb their spouses’ and kids’ sleep what they generally do is they go to another room in their house and work from there. I don’t think they mean not taking interest in their family affair.
Kinda hard to treat them nice when they’ve betrayed you and you just want to cut their D off… He wants his mistress as his new wife. Seems pointless to try. Even though I don’t want my family to collapse and most importantly explode my sons world….
I would because being fat causes alot of problems for your health and you shouldn’t want to be a burden on him hell im on the process of losing weight now (im 21 im not as big a my pik on here ANYMORE )HOWEVER if you are happy with your weight dont change but dont get mad if some one you’re with tells you about yourself and if you dont get it together then they leave Its your fault unless you are in a position like being handicapped and cant.
I can’t listen to this one. I got to 2:27 and paused it and dropped to my knees. I can feel his pain. I’m praying for this guy. I’m in the exact same situation. Married 20 years and together 28 years. We are separated. And this has to be one of the hardest and painful times I’m experiencing. I’ll listen to the rest tomorrow. Praying for you buddy. I’m sorry you are going through this. Keep the faith.
I was getting fatter a few years ago and my boyfriend told me about it at first I was pissed but now I have the body I wanted all along ����
My husband is so complaining and irritated all the time, he asks me to leave one habit of mine so that he can be happy and when i do leave that habit he come up with a new complain and reason to hate me
I mean some gf tell their bf to get a job. Ladies don’t get offended when you are reminded to hit the gym.
My wife still converses with me and has intentions to remain my best friend, but there was some good advice in here that applies. The bit about positive and safe feelings when together leads to her thinking positively things about me when away….that was a huge eye opener as I hadn’t thought of it that way before. Good stuff as always guys!
What can women do if they’re too old for sex and sex is even possible without some preparation it can be difficult when you’re in your sixties…. but I want to be intimate with my husband
Man I’m trying to get my girl to loose weight and I’m just going to keep it real all of that trying to beat around the bush with it shit does not work I swear to got you have to just tell her either she will sink or swim we only have one life to live don’t sit there miserable because you don’t want to heart there feelings
Loni is great, in this video she said that she has lost 30 pounds and that she is aiming yo lose another 30.
yep..tired #3… but we have sex all the time….. all the time..all the time…and we’ve been married 30 years…
I can relate to everything in this video. I have been feeling I would be happier alone instead of with someone who is so depressed and lacks all confidence in himself. He doesn’t try to change and leaves it up to me. We lack common interests and don’t spend time together. The only reason we are still together is because of our kids but this marriage is dragging us both down. I try to find ways to fix this, and when I’m the only one doing this, it’s angering. We’ve already done marriage counseling. It made me realize how much I don’t want to be together. Ugh, I’m at a dead end.
I love your videos and have been binge watching!! You are awesome! Very attractive as well!
When it comes to weight….women get so salty…like wtf. Get over it and lose the fucking weight.
What if he told you when you got together that he loved thick women and he has been heavy the entire time we dated but when he lost a LITTLE weight all the sudden your thickness is an issue?
As a husband, I did just that, I told her I will be with her every step of the way, but she said ‘NO”.
A year later we are divorced, she is at the gym every day. Most women are willing to lose weight after divorce not during married. And yes, we men are driven by visuals more so than women.
Thank you for giving me a different perspective. I gotta be honest my man picked the worst time to ask me (trying to be sexy for him). We’ve been together for almost three years and he notices I respond more when he is blunt than supportive. But it still hurts because I know I need to change.
Leaving someone cuz they r getting fat? Lol umm i mean lets be realistic alot of women get comfy & let them selves go real bad lol i wouldnt find it offensive if my man told me in a nice way, but if he try to tell me to lose weight or he’ll leave me then DEUCES✌✌✌ lol but it is important to not let yourself go either thoo
Nah, If I’m not facing health risks, I’m not losing no weight.
I’ll drop you quicker than I’ll drop the weight.
Its not the same.
Society treats weight as another point to make women feel less valuable, less human…
I lost 80lbs, I can’t say people always used to really look at me as a person in stead of a freak.
I love your videos! You touch on subjects that no one else does and you do it In an eloquent manner.
I know a guy who is very athletic and likes athletic girls but for some reason has only wound up in relationships with tubby girls and it’s generally because the girls he ends up with have the right mentality and personality and confidence he likes but they just don’t fit his physical desire. I think a guy will overlook the physical for the right mentality and attitude and as long as the girl they’re with truly believes they’re beautiful and hot. But there aren’t a lot of bigger girls who truly believe this about themselves. On the flipside, there are lots of skinny women who also don’t believe they’re beautiful. It’s the attitude that wins in the end I believe.
I’m a housewife cooking all our meals etc. and am on my feet moving about 13 hours a day. By contrast my husband sits for at least 15 hours a day, not stretching or moving except to get to the car or bathroom. We’re about to try again for a baby so I won’t be able to do extra exercise and the level of intensity that I ask of him. Doing stretches in front of him and inviting him for couples yoga doesn’t work. How can I be a rolemodel for him? I’m concerned that it will be difficult to get pregnant and have a healthy baby with his overweight (I’m normal weight) and lack of exercise, and that there will be high medical bills but it’s not enough for him to make it a priority. When I ask “how can I help?” he says “I’m fine”.
Just had the convo today so will ask him again in a week or so during ‘soft timing’.:) Thanks for the tip. Is there something more I can do?
I started gaining weight around the time my boyfriend and I started getting serious about our relationship. The “Happy” weight as people would say. And I gained a good 40 lbs and he told me that I was starting to get chubby. I think being honest with your partner about their weight is not bad, but the way it is brought up is. I think acknowledging a divorce for not losing weight is crazy. Just like Adrienne said, if you want your partner to change the way they look, do it with them and make it a team effort. We started going to the gym together and started to eat healthy as well as cut down the amount of times we ate out for lunch or dinner, and it made me feel great about losing the weight.
To whoever asked this question, remember to yourself you should only take choices in a healthier lifestyle for you and not to impress someone because that only effect your self-esteem in the end if they decide to disappear on you. Otherwise your weight loss journey might become dependant on them when it actually It should ALWAYS be a choice you make for yourself and not because someone else told you to. This life is YOURS not some random ass guy you’re talking to because people are flakey as fuck. Depend on yourself for your life and don’t make a change to your life because someone told you to. Decide what you want for yourself!! I’ve been this situation and I’m just speaking from experience, hope this helps you. Remember your life is in your own hands it’s YOURS not to please them.
To elaborate: a guy who asks you to lose weight is ignorant, but he’s being honest. But should you continue talking to him? That depends. That’s all based on the individual. If you notice that he’s constantly criticism you and putting you down and this is juts a part of his character rather than an actual concern for your health, then you should consider leaving. BUT if he has a point, you have to separate facts from your emotions. So that all depends on his motives and this is where you gotta use your judgement to make a decision.
I love this because it gives another perspective of things. Thank you for that ❤️
You can’t leave someone just because they gained weight wth?!?
Going vegetarian & alcohol free can more mountains people. & thats just the beginning.
Im going through this right now and have just about had enough. My SO has gained at least 75 lbs in the past six years pushing her already overweight figure through the roof. Ive done everything i can think of short of flat out saying youre fat and I’m not attracted to you. I on the other hand have gone down to about 230 from 300 lbs. I feel better than i have in years and would love it if she was on the same page but honestly feel that if i continue to validate her then she will never change. What do i do?
All 5 symptoms here and I do not want your coaching because I just want to get rid of her. It’s just a matter of time… just a matter of time.
Relationships are a real pain in the ass unless you just happen to meet the perfect person
All five signs are perfectly matching!
I am scared that I am heading for divorce.
Can anyone help me out plss!
It is like living in hell with low self confidence, self esteem and life seems like a burden
Great, you have to baby your husband or wife to lose weight. Americans are so weak minded….smh
If you pick up 40-80 pds in your marriage you should be worried.. That’s not fair to do to your spouse..
You should care for yourself and how they feel.. Not to mention the health concerns..
Leave him. If he didn’t like your figure, so he should find some model. When you love someone you accept everything. It’s a wrong way to get with someone and then try to change them by your standards. Of course if you are severely overweight, you really should cut portions more than in half for yourself.
If you slim it doesn’t mean you are not strong, a lean vegan man hit the record.
Plz How long is a consensual divorce in New York State with no children or anything in common?
I miss my old figure but finding time to exercise is hard. Good thing I found this— http://bit.ly/Extrakt
I haven’t watched the video yet but I feel as though topics like this are so problematic. If I choose to lose or gain weight it would be a personal choice. There is nothing like being loved the way you are.
Wise advices, you’re totally right with timing and lead with example,not only for this,for everything.
By the way,I’ve just watched your video of dead end relationship,great as well! You could make a video about your love story,how God sent you the right man in the perfect moment:)
Kisses!
Why is everyone making it seem like Gordon’s wife was being critical and mean? She would never leave him, I’ve seen their relationship, they’ve been with each others for more than 20 years. When your a couple for that long, you can say whatever you want to eachother. Gordon took it upon himself to fix up because it was something his wife pointed it because he clearly didn’t notice how much he put on. Maybe that was a sudden realisation for him, and it worked. Calm down people.
I wish it were that easy to get my wife to clean up her diet a little and exercise regularly. I’ve been weight training and eating not always perfectly but in a way supportive to my goals for about 2 and a half years and she’s been slowly gaining weight to the point that I think she weighs as much as me. I can’t talk to her without being labeled “insensitive”. She’s tried every fad diet out there and I know what it takes to build muscle and get lean but I just can’t get her to get on board and stick with it.
yeahhh, i would be like his wife. I defintely wouldn’t want my man getting fat. I want him to be healthy so I would definitely want to see him making some changes and Iwould hope he would want to be healthy too
woww… Ive never thought about it like this… thank you! <3 my hubby has really grown over the past few months XD. Good luck ladies!
People always assume that you’re cheating when this stuff happens. It’s not that at all. And the best time to leave someone is to leave for yourself. Bringing a 3rd party in is a sure sign that relationship will end in doom too. Because you’ll find yourself talking to the 3rd party as if he/she is the therapist and once you need to have things in common.. YOU will be the only topic of things in common
I don’t want to have a victim mentality, but now what I want to do is break up with him so I can have time to focus on myself and workout.
Adrienne you don’t know the conversation they had and i am sure Tamera didn’t say it right. So don’t come down on the beautiful wife.
Hi how would you fix the problems? I love my wife so much but a year ago we lost a baby but we have had a miracle baby daughter now but it seems like we haven’t got no better if not worse and I’m stuck she’s my 1st family and I’m hoping it’s my last but basically what you explained is us not all of it but most of it, Is there anyone who has experience can help me please I appreciate any advice
I wish I had found all of this information before I snooped, confronted the affair partner, and wasted so many opportunities to build positive time together over the last six months. I hope this guy follows the advice to a t. It’s hard but I’m convinced if I had known all of this upfront and didn’t get emotional we would be together now
I gained some weight when I got married to my husband and my birth control cause weight gain, my husband has loved me the same regardless of the weight. But, during my deployment I lost 30lbs, I am super excited to get home and impress him, but I mainly did it for me.
I won’t effort to lose weight just to please my man. If he doesn’t want me anymore because I get fat, the door is wide open for him to leave. If I’m gonna lose weight it’s probably for my own good. I want to feel good and look good for myself because you can never impress everyone so it’s better to live life impressing yourself.
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I HAVE lost weight for my partner. The arguments didn’t stop. I was still too fat to wear certain clothes. Stress-eating took over and I gained most of the weight back. They withhold sex from me not just because of problems within the relationship but because I’m not appealing to them. Every day or so there’s an argument over something I did/didn’t do or how I SHOULD look.
I’m 115lbs, I weight train every single day without fail and I completely cut out sugar and processed carbs eating an average of 1500cal daily. A guy still told me I could lose 5kg who didn’t workout and treated his body like sh*t. It f*cking hurts when you get told that after doing all the right things. I definitely see your point that men have “types” loud and clear ����♀️
She’s cheating. When women start to feel themselves they’ll put you down in the process.
This man breaks my heart to hear him. I know how he feels. My husband and I are going thru a divorce. I’m trying not to be in a really low place too. All of the people especially men have left me.
Lol this is funny.
If they like it and it’s not harmful to you, I don’t really think it’s a questions. Just do it. I say that from the perspective that I work to be what my girl likes. She loves me already for who I am but she is a ballroom dancer. I learned how to dance and even went as far as to teach it for a little bit to get free lessons from the business owner and of course I got paid. Lol but anyway, just do it. At it’s worst, you look better and feel better it just happened to be because your men wanted you to.
A sign that I don’t want to leave my wife, I’m watching this video!
You know I had a boyfriend who is now my ex but he called me fat every fucking day. He told me to lose weight when I was the average weight for my height (110) I tried to lose weight for him and it spiraled out of control I was severely underweight from trying to please him. From what he has done to me has effected my self esteem and my mental health. I have a different boyfriend now and even then I can’t trust him from what has happened. Pleasing someone isn’t important at all honesty if anything your self esteem matters, yes your health matters too but pleasing some one by your body doesn’t fucking matter.
My husband was the first to tell me I had an eating disorder (in the most loving supportive way possibleand not as blunt as I’ve written above).
He then helped me on my journey to recovery and the most helpful thing he told me was that he will love me no matter what weight I am. That his love for me goes beyond what weight I am.
And it made me wake up and realise that just as I will love him no matter what size he is, he will love me no matter what size I am.
We just want each other to be healthy both mentally and physically. And that doesn’t mean thin and trim.
I think it was a good sign I’d had enough when I smacked me ex in the mouth
Been married for almost 25 years. I want out of the marriage so bad. I watched those video and realized I embody 4 out of the 5. I feel like I’d be blind siding her with divorce….do you think she sees any of the signs I’m showing.
I’ll never understand why people want to fix a bad marriage, just get divorced
Who else is here to see if your parents are wanting a divorce ha ha…
I think my boyfriend doesn’t want to loose weight. And I think I’m loosing attraction towards him. I’ve told him so many times to take care of himself and he doesn’t listen to me. He is overweight. I don’t know what to do anymore.
I agree with this advice as its coming from a guy, most men make fun of marriage stupid jokes about being whipped or tide down morons
I personally think it’s good for a guy you like to be brutally honest. I think it shows a level of respect and care and that’s cute. However, yeah, is it’s constant negativity that’s a different story
Then again it becomes a problem when we change the way we look for someone
else. The definition of the “perfect body” is so commonly described as a thin waist and a big butt in so many different countries within the mainstream media. In a way the media has its benefits but the example or representation of the “perfect body” that the media is putting out there is increasing the suffering of eating disorders, especially for those at an adolescent age. Who are the role models for young girls within the mainstream media? What are the requirements of size or
Weight to be successful within the super model industry? Are models
Out there living with a healthy BMI or are they strictly required to keep losing weight to continue looking “beautiful and perfect” on cover magazines?
Have modelling agencies taken into consideration the health implications of being too thin for example. Yes, having a “perfect” thin body may allow modelling industries to become successful but how is such a lifestyle of expectations to be accepted making women feel within? Are they truly happy and do they truly feel beautiful or are they living a life to be accepted by societies definition of beautiful?
I personally think that there should be some form of legal requirement or framework to allow women or girls within the modelling agency to be at a healthy weight or size before taking part in anything. It’ll prevent further health implications, especially eating disorders and other mental health problems. We all come on different shapes and sizes. I don’t think a size 8 and big boobs or a thin waist is the only definition of beauty. We’re all unique and I think that’s beautiful
Marriage problems? Solution? Never get married in this hopeless immoral feMEnized joke-of-a-society. Marriage has failed. It needs to be recalled. It is a laughingstock. All females want is the $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. It has become a business and a career. Cash and prizes.
My wife is not affectionate, I have tried to show her how to be affectionate towards each other but she’s to shy to show any, for the past 22 years of our marriage she has call me honey about 3 times, when we hug I get a pat on the back. she has never initiated sex, no problem in our sex life other than that, last Valentine’s Day for the first time she said to me to be her valentine I was stunned to here that, I think she is trying not to be so shy, she clams up when I try talking to her about such things, no nothing has happened to her in her younger year. She is 9 years older than I, we have our arguments but nothing serious
We have 3 our oldest is 21, My parents showed much affection towards each other in there marriage. and it’s just bothers me/hurts to live this way, I don’t wear my wedding ring cuz of the type of work I do, so there has been several of times women have given me attention and I’m just drawn to it, I’m afraid I will just cave in to temptation and be with someone that shows me a little more affection, life is to short to live in a shy world.
Any advice for this lonely man in Mn.
IMHO, it’s rare when these things work on a permanent basis, especially if the underlying issue is one of control. The weight is not the problem, it’s a symptom.
I’d stay attractive for my man but I wouldn’t lose weight for him. You can still be attractive without losing weight. As long as both of us are healthy then we’re happy.
Hey Brad I have been married for a year. After a month of being married, my sister who I was close to passed away. I took it hard and shut down totally. I was real angry through our marriage. Well my husband has 8 kids whom I love but I shut down on them too. He left me a month ago, and has so much anger towards me. Throws it in my face constantly how I turned my back on him. I didn’t do it intentionally. It was the grief process I was going through. We have both said hurtful things towards each other. He is now saying he wants a divorce but always has an excuse why he won’t file. What should I do?? I want my marriage to work and I want him to come home from the roach motel he has been living in.
Someone help me…I feel like my husband is talking to someone who is telling him to leave me. I have nursed my husband back to heath and have ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR HIM. He is living but from one day to the next he claims that this is over and he is leaving because he deserves to be happy. I tell him to slow down but he rants on and on…I asked him if someone was giving him bad advice…he got angry. I said this words are not yours…I hold him and everything is ok…then he accuses me of stuff and not listening to him. What???
Thnkx for ur help… Me n my wife are on a bit of a disconect atm we just argue so muj… Hoping i go see a counceler sumtym soon… For help but i thank u cz u showd quite a lot of things its really true… I subscribe
I know his pain. But you guys have been encouraging. I’m very glad I was able to find this group.
Trying to watch the video while reading the comments at the same time �� looks like I’m not the only one in a messed up relationship
Haven’t even made it a year. He gets mad at me I try to do better and do as he asks and gets mad at me still. I think he just doesnt want me but wants to keep the good name in his family ��
I’m ok with it! My marriage was unhealthy the whole time anyways. Gods got better plans for me in the future.
I dont want divorse but seen all the symptoms..please help @Brad Browning
Thanks, all this signs started long time ago and over 10 years have been getting worse, my partner is not, never has been a family guy, only interested in his needs and in time I had distance myself, as there is not will on his part to talk about the issues and try to get some kind of arrangement that could work for both of us. In his mind I am just looking for problems and to have arguments with him….. I don’t have a life… I feel very unhappy, does not believe in psychotherapy either, I am the one taking medication and going to therapy, but I know that my answer it will only be: to get out of a loveless marriage. Though I am scared to take that step.
I can’t get the nerve to have an honest awkward conversation with him. He does not care for his health, and it’s affecting me. I’ve been keeping quiet about it for so long while watching him eat himself to death, be comfortable with it, and he’s hypersensitive and avoids talking about his weight. He’s losing mobility because he’s borderline morbidly obese, and ruling it out to his age; and he’s only 40. It’s getting out of hand. I’m at that fine line between loving him too much and not wanting to hurt him, and walking on eggshells to protect his fragile self esteem. Intimacy is something I now dread and pray he doesn’t want. But the pressure from his end has become unbearable. I try to make excuses to get out of it, but he wants what he wants, and he doesn’t let up. I want to love him the way he needs by being totally honest, but i don’t have the courage to hurt someone I truly care about. I keep healthy foods in the house and soon as he gets away from me, he’s stuffing his face and treating his body like a trash can. I’m not skinny myself, so maybe I’ll start with my own weight. I know obesity is psychological and it’s hard to combat. I am at a crossroad, so anything outside of keeping it bottled in will help.
I’m with Tamara �� percent! I could not do it for my husband. That just wouldn’t motivate me. You gotta lose the weight to be content with yourself!
I have a question me and my husband have been together for 5 years and married for 1 years we have 3 small children I have asked him to talk with me more tell me about him like what happeneds when hes a work or what he does now he’s a trucker he’s gone from sunday night till friday morning and that takes alot of trust but I always feel like her hidding stuff from me I’ll said him something he’ll say no or nothing happened but then we’ll be talking to someone and he brings something up and I’m like I asked u if anything happened or what u did and u said nothing but u can tell them or call ask him not to do something or I’ll ask for him to tell me if he does something and he will just blow me off and he thinks I’m just bitching at him for “no reason”but what he dont realize is Jesus making me feel like im not important enough to know about these thinks and I have told him straight out talk to me u make me feel like this and it goes right over his head he has told me he dont wanna be with me anymore but that’s when we was fighting and he saids he didnt mean it or he was just mad and that is always on my mind I sont know if he lovea me and more or if he cares and I love him so much I have put my all into him and our family since i was 16 (now 21) I getting tired of always trying to get him to see that I need more from him in the caring part and making me feel important and i feel like no matter what i do he’s not getting it I have cried I have asked nicely I have fought over and all I get it negative feed back of i cry and tell him he tells me to leave if he’s so bad if I tell her yells back if i ask Nicky he gets mad like I have an attitude and I wouldn’t I just dont know what to do anymore
I will resonate with the comments of those who say this advice is ‘too little, too late.’ My wife CLEARLY and BLATANTLY refused similar advice a friend and former roommate suggested. (Including talking about the matter with a licensed counselor.)
I have been thrown out of the house I shared with my wife for five years. I am living in a homeless shelter for military veterans and the program to which I enrolled in does not allow me to contact my wife or son until the divorce is finalized.
Things were good and the five tips were employed for a while. She just decided that the marriage was a total waste of time. There is no changing of a stubborn woman at this point.
My husband is showing all these signs and has been so for a while… it’s barely been two years. He regrets marrying me and feels that we weren’t made for each other. We’ve both made mistakes but it’s mostly my fault.. I want to fix this so bad but I keep screwing up. I don’t know what to do. I just want us to be happy
YEAHH..All 5������������BYE…pls let the door hit you on the way out
I agree with Tamera. I would never let myself go. I want to look the best for myself ����♀️ and I feel happiest and healthiest when I’m not heavy.
I want to divorce my husband but im not showing all the 4 signs
My husband has told me he can’t do it anymore. He looks forward to Mondays and hates Fridays and he needs to be alone. He has said his anger and resentment toward me isn’t going away no matter the changes I am making. It has been going on since Christmas. He works all the time and we lost our friendship. We have had issues with our son this past year and that is when it all started to change. I found in his search history “divorce in _” We would be celebrating our 15 wedding anniversary and 20 as a couple this fall. I do not know where to turn. I see a counselor for my anxiety and controlling behavior. What more can I do when I believe he has already made up his mind? Can a man be that emotionally hurt or is he cheating?
Tamera is so beautiful but here she looks gorgeous, like a goddess ����
After since marriage I have found all of these points… I think so..
Partners encourage each other to be healthier and that’s okay as long as it comes from a place of love and trust. The issue is when a guy takes a fat or insecure woman and tries to turn her in “a ten.”
Any tips on how to handle parents divorce at age of seventeen?
I’d lose weight but not my partner! That brings on resentment especially if you never wanted it in the first place….. let’s work our together
How funny!
It’s been only 7 months for my marriage. It’s all messed up when we were in 2nd month. As I belong to India, I stay with mother in law. I know main problem lies there. I know the guy should not merge the dispute and act upon it. I know if there is anything wrong between me and husband we should talk about it and move on. As the life is not that easy. It is us who have to chose what to give priority on and what to not. But he is not ready for anything. My parents took loan for this marriage. They don’t want us to breakup. They think that as it is arrange marriage, everything is going to be fine. But they are not understanding that you cannot force just because of what society thinks.
The guy or girl after marriage doesn’t respect each other, share anything, avoid being home before 2 am, avoid talking on the topic which can be solved, uncomfortable, sex is never the topic of relationship, only one person have to change, only one person will have to adjust, compromise because she is in their home. What will happen?
Omg I love Tamera like a sister in my head. I do not want anything to happen to her.
No, I wouldn’t lose weight for a man. I’d lose it for myself. Whether I’d like to be a certain size or to improve my health
Sex has become difficult in.our relationship because of my back pain. Iam afraid if this will ruin our relationship. Any advice. Thanku
Yes, I will if he say so. It’s a win-win situation after all. He will be happy and I will look gorgeous. But actually in our situation, now, I’m getting fatter because of him lol.
I did the same thing. This guys kept asking me to loose weight, i found it hurting, but i did it because i know am a people pleaser and would do anything to make the man i love happy.
I want to separate. He’s so nasty and agitated with me most of the time I can’t talk to him about the simplest things without him snapping at me. Most of the time I avoid talking to him which I know can’t help, but I don’t like being treated so disrespectfully over asking a simple question.
My husband doesn’t care about me. He doesn’t even talk to me all day. When we finally see eachother after work he doesn’t want to hear about my day or feelings. I feel lonely even when he’s right next to me. I went to marriage counseling by myself and he said he won’t go because I’m the issue. Because I’m the one that has to clean, cook, and take care of the kids myself. We never kiss, or hug. We been living like this for 7 years and together for 11 years. I want a divorce but I don’t have any support. So I guess I have to stay here until my youngest daughter goes off to college. Or when I get the courage to leave. I try every day but he doesn’t care. All he cares about sleeping and being in his phone. He doesn’t even talk with our two girls. I know sounds depressing but what else do I have? I can’t pay our mortgage or bill myself. He make triple my salary. Life is tuff. And I’m only 25.
Heard once a lady offered her husband a trip to the lingerie shop for each 5lbs he lost.
these are signs u need to book a surprise holiday to a third world country and ditch them in worst part of town
I Fed my wife thin, yep size 16 to size 6. No exercise. We went Keto, watched youtube video’s together. We both lost 60 lbs. each! We are now off all meds and we are in our early 60’s she wears a bikini and I look like an athlete. It works!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My bf is in england and I’m in tx. He’s put on about 30 pounds over the past year, almost year and a half, and I’m trying to talk about it with him. It’s not that I want him to get ripped for my sake or anything, I just want him to be healthy. If he could just lose the puff I’d feel a lot better about his health. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I love him so much and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.
I keep thinking my life will be better without her and alone. I don’t know why. But I’m afraid of life without her and she makes me a better person….. I love her but I keep thinking of life as a free man…. what should I do?
That’s true, those who are in affairs they hate we find out their stuff, hate!!! My husband wanted to kill me, i didn’t care he is wrong! But the hate passes.. later on he was hurt for hurting me because he saw my damage! I’m in therapy and working on myself, he is not.. he had a emotional affair but it almost killed me! I didn’t divorce because of this website that opened my mind, seriously, because all I wanted is to get out! I love marriage help!!
I like your video. Your clues are right on. The subject of this whole thing is so sad. Marriage is a no glory thing in life. Some people don’t try hard enough, while others spend a lifetime trying to make a bad marriage work.
I getting a divorce the signs are all there I’m 59 let’s see how it plays out.
My wife is separeted for 2 month and now wants a divorce she aggree to go to the marriage workshop 911. I hope it helps but she is all over the place. I have two month that i dont know my wife… this are going to be the longest 25 days of my life. And i hope this workshop works because she is the love of my life.. we have a 8 year old and is starting to affect him as much as me. I pray everyday and i dream every other night. That me and wife made up.. i havent a good sleep in a while
I have watched ur videos and they r very interesting and helpful iv suggested to my wife that we seek counseling but she doesn’t want to bc she says I dont do anything around the house even though i do and she brings up divorce every time we argue any advice for me
2 year anniversary is next month and we are already at this point prayers for a turnaround cause this is not cool����
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WTF women nag all the friggin time as soon as something slightly bothers them…. often they nag even without a reason
Myself and Wife has been going thru a cycle of pain all these years. I’m 33. She’s 24. I have 3 kids. We are separated since 2016. I was a bad Husband at the initial stage because I couldn’t let go of her past. She has terrible past which tormented me even in my dreams. I love her. And I still do. I just couldn’t accept my love being shared around. There’s this thing in me because I was also brought up from a insecure family. Thus making me even more insecure with her and raking up her past day in and out. Finding faults with her and linked all I can was because the root causes was her past. I was selfish. I was stupid. I am retarded for even bringing up her past. I accepted her thought that I could forgive her but I couldn’t. Fast forward to years after our marriage, we have our 3rd kid. Yeah, I’m a motherfucking sex machine and I’m Asian. Back to the story, we have 3 kids and I find myself drifted away from her as time goes. She moved out on our quarrels. She went night life. She went even to her mother place but got chased out due to her abnormal unusual late night attics. She became a stronger drinker than she used to. Going nights out with friends 3-4 times a week. I shall not divulge more. It’s heartbreaking. Right now after 3 years I’m still seeing my kids all these time. Fetching them to school and picking them from school and rushing to work. Cook for them and do their laundries. Shower them and pack their school bags the next day. I’m worn out. Totally shagged out. At many occasions I thought of ending my life. I don’t have a life. I don’t drink like I used to. I do not have any friends anymore especially devoting 99% of my time to my kids. I have nobody to talk to anymore. Until this very day I’m still struggling. I’m still waiting for her. But today I’ve saw her social media’s and she’s still enjoying her life and knowing so many different guys. It’s so obvious they only want that Pussy of hers. I as a husband on paper can only pray to God and open her eyes. I was depressed and I still am. I’ve lost all sense of direction and I’m so tired seeing my kids. I’m hanging on because they are my responsibility. I might be a jerk who rake up her past but I certainly do not deserved being ignored for 3 years. I kid myself she will changed and be back. But it didn’t happened. I pray hard and cry hard to Lord Jesus as I’m a backslider I pray that one day I can find a partner who can motivate me and be strong. Someone who understands me and show me love. I’m dying for that love. I hope u guys pray for me as tmr I’m going to the family court and initiate divorce proceeding. This is the first time in my life I’ve finally make my decision after seeing her social media is so active with different guys. I can swear for my whole family life despite having a dick stand so often, I never once insert my dick onto another Pussy. For this imconfident. I’m giving up this marriage. I’m letting God handle my pain. My sorrows and my disaster. I’m asking Jesus to give me strength and make me a better person. Most important right now I want to provide a stable shelter for my 3 kids. My life has changed. I no longer need friends. My friends are my children. I love them. They are my responsibility.
Hi.i love my husband so much.my husband keep arguing in everything i do.he keeps scolding me every time but he cares for me a lot.he does not call me until i call him.when he is angry he told me all thing that he dont like in me i feel so hurt.we have been in love relashionship for 4 years and now its been 8 month for my marriage and all these is happening with me.what can i do
Been so hurt in this marriage I completely checked out. It’s exhausting
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Nope, working out exercise counting calories silly, nope its the food! Go, Keto, Go Carinivor!!!!!!!!!
I think if my man is asking me to be smaller then he better go make something bigger lol or don’t ask!!
Cholesterol isn’t genetic. cholesterol comes from animal fat. Go vegan Tamara and you’ll never have to worry about having a stroke. Plus, you’d be helping the millions of animals that are slaughtered daily.
My husband cheated on me when I just had our baby and he finally a year later got the balls to tell me but only because he wants a divorce. There’s no saving this. All the things he told me in the alter was a lie
Our marriage has gone South. My husband feels way to judgemental and has some unrealistic expectations of me. Such as, keeping the towels and bedding WHITE, wipe the kids finger prints off walls constantly and no sidewalk chalk left on the sidewalk. I am a stay-at-home mom, and he expects me to keep the house clean, very clean have all meals cooked at the right time and do everything else with the kids. He has a stressful job, but I get no help around the house and when I ask for it he says he doesn’t help because he will get frustrated with the way I do things. But then again, after 14 years of marriage I just realized now that I have abandonment issues that are deeply seeded, way before I met my husband. My abandonment issues, I have ignored all signs of, including being clinging at times and also distant. Having an aversion to when he touches me, or having sex. The hardest part is for him to know that it was never about him and that I do love him. He sees that I am attractive, very intelligent and tenacious, but the years of abuse and brainwashing before I met him rendered me feeling helpless stupid and to hide my attractiveness through bad hygiene, not caring to look presentable and unkept at times. I have improved over the past 14 years, the things but feel like we’re in despair. I feel like I just woke up to the reality of things and see everything in shambles. We have two kids our daughter who is 6, and our son who is 8 years old. I know that Calling it Quits would much harder than fixing this, but things seem so bleak. Do you have any advice?
she wants him to pay for her irresponsible eating………..HE isnt fat, YOU are. Dont pussyfoot around, tell her that her increased fattness tells him that she doesnt really care. This lady is an idiot cajolling and dancing around the issue. Was he large when you married??
Easier said than done. I’ve been trying for 5 years with basically no luck.
What is the result of one month silent treatment and no interaction at all?
Can you do a video about if your spouse left you hasn’t gotten a divorce yet kicked you out, blocked you on Facebook an hasn’t contacted you an how to stop them from getting a divorce and trying to get them to want you back living together as a happy married couple again please? Thanks
Based on your tips… I going for a preemptively divorce… b4 she waste more time bothering…