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5 Minute Therapy Tips Episode 02: Grief
Video taken from the channel: The Milton H. Erickson Foundation
How do you help a grieving friend?
Video taken from the channel: Megan Devine
Yoga For Grief | Yoga With Adriene
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The Grieving Process: Coping with Death
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Grief Counselling: 3 Techniques Therapists Can Use
Video taken from the channel: Uncommon Practitioners
When to Treat Grief and Bereavement
Video taken from the channel: UC San Diego Health
Breathe to Heal | Max Strom | TEDxCapeMay
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Dr. Gross says that a simple knowledge of basic foods helps during the grieving process. “For example, berries, including blueberries can help with memory. Foods rich in Vitamin B can help reduce stress and foods such as broccoli, spinach and meat, which are rich in iron, can help stamina, strength, and most importantly your immune system.”.Prioritizing the factors within your control — eating nutritious meals, getting gentle exercise, reaching out to a friend, volunteering or just sitting with your emotions — can help you reach the point where you trust that the grieving process will eventually come to an end.Officialduckshockeyauthentic: Childrens Goal Setting Worksheet.
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Grief can rob you of your appetite as well as much-needed sleep, as the emotional pain of loss can start to affect you in physical ways. However, as the Mayo Clinic points out, it’s important to take care of yourself through the grieving process, or risk further impacting your overall health.For someone coping with grief, exercise can be a distraction and help prevent depression by interrupting cycles of negative thoughts, said Williams. For Marty, it helped. “Going to the club has been a form of therapy for me,” he explained. “Joining the club is one of the best things I’ve ever done.Exercise may not extinguish grief but it can play a valuable role in helping people adapt to loss.
Physical activity releases brain chemicals such as endorphins, which help to relieve discomfort and boost our mood.Here are 15 small, loving actions you can do each day to help yourself move toward a place of healing. 1. Get rest.
Take breaks from work or daily tasks to nap or just relax. Make yourself a cup of calming tea or take a leisurely walk. 2. Make lists. It’s easy to forget things when your circuits are on overload.
Grief: What’s Normal, What’s Not – and 13 Tips to Get Through It. There’s no easy way to part with those we love. Wherever there is attachment and loss, there is the pull of grief.
Yam Kahol February 15, 2016 at 5:47 pm Reply. I would love a more realistic and achievable take on exercise and nutrition for those grieving. For example I think there is an answer to q3 which could be tailored to specific address the emotions of grieving and the role of food – when you are in the depths of grief it is not the sugar level that is the only thing making you sluggish and depressed.Grieving After a Break-Up? 6 Strategies to Help You Heal.
The death of a loved one isn’t the only type of loss that causes grief. Get six strategies to help you heal and move on after a painful.When a loved one dies, you might be faced with grief over your loss again and again — sometimes even years later.
Feelings of grief might return on the anniversary of your loved one’s death or other special days throughout the year. These feelings, sometimes called an anniversary reaction, aren’t necessarily a setback in the grieving process.Moderate-to-vigorous exercise may help prevent atrial fibrillation The normal process of grieving. Published: December, 2011.
Explore options for better nutrition and exercise; Learn more about the many benefits and features of joining Harvard Health Online ».Chapter 4 Lesson 3 Coping With Loss And Grief Answers Grief Loss There are a number of steps and that will help you find to your grief. However, because your grief is personal and different than else there paths to follow and reconciling is private.
Once you the and breadth of despair you fear it. Looking barrier of despair squarely in the attention you’ll be able to conquer grief and go on to.It turns out that exercise can be an important coping tool to deal with grief and loss, While long cleansing runs and rides can help you get through a tough time, exercise is just one of many recommended tools that include good nutrition, adequate sleep, counseling and perhaps most importantly, social support. Don’t rush the process.Exercise and Nutrition Tips to Ease the Grieving Process.
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322 comments
I lost my mom and brother in March of 2019. And it seems like yesterday. I’m just heart broken and don’t know how to go on.
Indian Yoga system has had a method called Pranayama for thousands of years. Prana means life giving air, and ayama is regulating… in otherwords Breath work… Must do excercise for everyone.
Thankyou,I’m not a professional,just someone who lost her mam 10wks ago.We always lived together & Im consumed with grief although I have always suffered anxiety/panic previous to mam dying.I did a ritual I cut a lock of my hair & placed it under an ornament on my mam grave.I don’t think it worked but I’m glad I did it.The thing is I’ve never been well physically since Mam passes & the anxiety is getting worse,,I just miss her so terribly,the pain is something I could never imagine.I am English & we don’t get therapists unless we are a danger to ourselves so I’m turning to YouTube to talk about my feelings but I think from what I’ve seen there’s nothing to help really.
The Bible says to mourn with those who mourn. When I’m crying, it’s the best when someone just hugs me… mourns with me
Thank you hit so many spots in my heart and brain. Thank you or your wise advice. I just lost my husband
Only ten weeks ago and having a difficult time erasing his last weeks image from my mind. Your words meant a lot as I was listening. Blessing.
I’m here because my sister just lost her husband last January 2, 2020 and I don’t know how to comfort her. I’m scared that if I say something to cheer her up I might say the wrong things.
Another tip to not say is “What happened”. It I offensive and hurtful and people will talk about it when they are ready. . Give your condolences and check on them in the long run as well. People tend to stop checking, as if the pain just went away.
rest in paradise mama I love you forever and always your the best mother and the strongest person I’ve known thank you for everything ♥️
I ended up getting sick with Covid. During my quarantine my dad caught it (thank God mom didn’t). Towards the end of our time I was getting better but he wasn’t. Mom went to get some stuff so I watched after him… I watched my dad die with his last words was asking for me to help him breath. It was because of me he got sick so I basically killed him. He wasn’t just my dad but my best/only friend. Because of me my mom lost her husband, my sister and I lost our dad, my niece and nephew lost their granddad, and the world lost a great man. 7-7-20
Thank you Jeff. I find that at this stage of life…mid 60s, there have been many losses and they keep coming…I think I do loss well, as do most of the people in my family…and I would have to say, this period of life is giving me a challenge in the managing of grief around a long list of losses…Ummm…makes for being a good therapist…but I am not sure I like the scars on my soul so much…perhaps I will have to work on rituals for this later life experience…
My Grandpa died i cant stop crying even though I have never seen him
Damn I needed this, my best friend just lost a loved one and I was the only one to witness her bursting in tears. I had no clue on how to make things better so I was speechless and was just telling her it will be fine soon.
Lost my dad in 2014 and my first true love in 2016. No one really understands the pain… Unless they went through that themselves. Once one girl asked me how I was, and my cousin Just said: “what do you think? It’s been two years, ofc she is fine by now” I just stayed in silence… Didn’t want People to know that it was hurting then the same amount when I lost them. It still hurts… But I never talk about it. People used to try to cheer me up… It just doesn’t work.
With everything going on in the world right now, I seem to get really overwhelmed. But somehow, every time I come to this video I feel so much better. Thank you so much Miss Adrienne, you’ve helped me more than you could possibly know.
Adriene, I want you to know how deeply I appreciate you! Thank you!
Does anybody know, which kind of breathing he is refering to when he talkd about releasing grief? I would love to try it. Thank you!
Even though I lost my uncle 3 years ago, I still cry every time I think of him
My dearest mum died one month ago. My dad is learning to live without her after 61 years together. I’m heartbroken for him and for me and have not been able to do my usual daily yoga with Adrienne until today. Thank you Adrienne for showing me there is a way to live.
My sister committed suicide while living with me. My grief is connected with guilt. I can’t describe the sorrow I feel… But I’m trying to heal. I’m trying…
Rip Daisy my pet cat, my bestfriend, my family, my whole life, my emotional support, my everything. I love you so much and forever, you helped me with my severe anxiety, you were always there for me, and you were the kindest and friendlest cat or being ive ever known. You’ve been here for me sense i was born and till after and forever on. I love you so much, you and petty were my 1# bestfriend my whole life. You loved tummy rubs, cuddles, and pets for hours. I remember everyday we went and watched the clouds together and the trees and birds for hours everyday and listened to music. You were there for me my whole life when my homophobic parents weren’t, when my ex friends weren’t, when everyone who I cared left you were still there for me. I’m happy your at peace with your brother and I will never stop loving you. It just hurts knowing it’s gonna be a while until I see you again. We binged watched movies together and every time I go to see you today, it hurts sense you were the last person and being I love go and leave but without choice, you were there sense day one and my love for you will still continue on, it’s gonna be hard to grieve sense my only friend was you and you ripped out of my hands with no choice. you weren’t doing well the past weeks you health got worse every week. I want to see you again I wish I could soon, you were my best friend and my only one. It’s gonna be hard accepting your gone until then I love you so much forever on. you always loved hugs and snuggles you were my whole life i wish i could see you again one last time i love you so much Daisy Bear i miss you so much
Daisy 2000-2020
My friend, Amora, just passed away yesterday:)) she can now take a rest. I love you!
I would really like to use this in teaching. Who is it important to give attribution to?
Great to see that your skill… Try Unflexal workouts to be more flexal:)
the WHO predicted by 2020 depression and anxiety would be the number 1 disability. They sure hit that nail on the head.
R.I.P Grandad. The best grandfather I could have wished for. Thank you.
26/07/2020
Thank you for this video. I did this video yesterday afternoon because I’m currently experiencing grief, I love that I can come to my mat with my pillow, blanket, and my stuffed animal sloth, and just cry/be lol. I appreciate your teaching.
Namaste,
Val
I lost my uncle today, like literally 10 minutes ago, and I just cant explain the sadness Im feeling, I have already felt stage one (denial) but stage 2 for me is just replaced by sadness, overwhelming sadness.
min. 14:30 the breathing technic starts. Thank you for this clip.
Thank you, I am trying to cheer my friend after he lost his father, so now I know what to do next.
OTTO WARBURG NOBEL PRIZE OF MEDICINE IN 1931: ALL DISEASES ARE ACID; OXYGEN AND ALKALINITY AVOID DISEASE, INCLUDING CANCER, WHICH IS A CONSEQUENCE OF ANTIPHYISIOLOGICAL FEEDING AND WAY OF LIFE
This was so powerful and ever so relevant in 2020… interesting that the WHO predicted how anxiety and depression would be by 2020 considering the pandemic. Were going through something tremendous….
My friend just died over the phone and I don’t know what to do
I lost my dear father due to surgery complications 14 days ago.He suffered a lot for 2 months before passing away but he was so brave and so kind to all the medical and nursing staff.He neved complained about a thing.He is my hero.I love him deeply.I’m in such a bad place rn and I have no idea how to deal with such a terrible loss.I just want to wake up from this nightmare.I am so lost and heartbroken.Dad,I love you so much.I miss you.See you soon
Rule one. Never breathe through your mouth. Not for yoga not for anxiety
My Mom died at the end of April 2019, and I was having a horrible time with it, then my Dad died at the end of December 2019…and well, let’s just say, I haven’t been well. I was self-isolating well before the pandemic called for it, and haven’t felt like doing much of anything or seeing anyone. I had told myself around September “I think I want to try yoga” and came to YouTube to find beginner videos. I watched quite a few and Adriene’s videos were the most appealing. Of course, with grief depression (I have no idea what else to call it), I didn’t start then. Finally last Sunday, I somehow got a shot of motivation, and started. I started with the 20 min and 40 min for beginner videos, and did the 40 min one four more days, then the self love one, and finally decided the other day I wanted to start one of the 30 days of yoga, and chose 2015. I finished Day 2 today, and decided, if the videos are shorter than 40 minutes, to pick another random shorter one. I started scrolling and found this one for grief. I have found myself crying while doing some of the videos, and this grief one was almost immediate. Anytime she says that “you’re safe, cared for, etc.” I just lose it, because it feels far from true, but the last week, while consistently doing these videos, I have felt far better than any other time in the last year and a half. I look forward to doing a daily yoga video and am actually excited about it. I am so grateful for how it has helped so far and can’t wait to see how much more it improves my mental and emotional state, along with the physical. That’s a long rambly mess, but I just wanted to put it out there, and send some thanks and gratitude to Adriene.
Just lost my grandmother 3 days ago and lost my best friend to suicide last year. Feels like a huge weight pressing me down. Life changes around us and we have to figure out how to keep going. Taking time for feeling and reflection is important. This practice helps me a lot. Thank you.
I lost my grandma 4 days ago I cant get over it I cant believe it shes always been there
One of my close friends lost her mother before some days
A lot of my friends send her messages but she doesnt answer them
what should i do?
i hate 2020.my grandpa died today. its the first time i dealt with grief. looking at the comments makes me feel a little better, knowing im not the only one who had lost a loved one.
My fiancee grandmother is on her deathbed because of the coronavirus we can’t see her and I’m not ready and don’t think I’ll be able to help him
Phew
I thought that the bear is going to stay sad.
I would’ve been sad to.
14 minutes of shameless self-promotion and then 4 minutes of breath exercise. Took my breath away.
my best friend’s parents are going thru divorce i will take these tips and help him the most he has been my friend for 11 years and i wont leave him no mater what. thank you for the advise Megan
Thank you for sharing! I am a trauma counsellor and these tips are very helpful. A friend recently told me that silence can be awkward.
Lost my gran today… Found out this morning. I tried to call her yesterday but was told she’s sleeping… I feel so disappointed in myself that I didn’t call again. She didn’t even get a chance to use the present I bought her. God I hope she rests in peace. If u are reading this be strong for your loved one, all they want is your happiness and be sure to spread it.
Thank you, I will try these techniques. My mum died suddenly and unexpectedly this year at age 60, my dad died 10 weeks later aged 60. We had to wait 6 months for the toxicology reports for my mum, and now the insurance company are still dragging it out. I feel I haven’t had time to heal. I thought I had turned a corner and then 6 months later all the pain came back but stronger.
I say its not how they left, what they left for us in our hearts.
Thank you for this post. You have helped me more in less than 4 minutes than years of reading on depression and going to peer support groups. When you speak your truth in this succinct direct matter-of-fact yet non-judgmental way, it really helps break through my defense mechanisms. You have confirmed what I have suspected all along and reinforced my belief that it’s okay to be sad and that my depression is partly or mostly due to others’ invalidation of my sadness and refusal to allow my grief process.
Thank you too for the honest shares in the comment section. I don’t mean to diminish your losses and grief. But I just want to say how brave you all are for sharing honestly and for validating my reality and making me feel less alone.
it’s 2020 now and I’m still NOT on any antidepressants!!.life is too good to have that!
Los médicos quedaron reducidos a embaucadores: mecánicos y lateros.
I lost my bro he was 14 and my grandma 88 on the same day (car accident). My dad is in the hospital for prostate cancer he was born on 6/6/66.
Yeah, 2020 is the year of the C19 virus. Talking about stress, Whew!
Hello, I want to upload this video on my channel with subtitles, can you help me how to give proper attribution?
(Psychiatric) drugs that solve problems aren’t bad. I think it would be wise to use them as models. For example, figure out why you like being drunk or smoking weed, then figure out how to cultivate what you like without using the drug.
Alcoholism is in my family because anxiety is in my family. I took the aspects of being drunk that I liked and figured out what was getting in the way of me having those aspects while sober.
There’s a reason drugs are called “plant teachers” in some non-western cultures.
Many years ago my little girl died at l l/2 years and I remember the minister to tell me I could grieve for three days and “then get on with your life”. Thank God advice has become more a reality. Thank you for this.
In 2016 the World Health Organisation stated that by the year 2020, depression and anxiety will be the number 1 disability worldwide. Fast forward 4.5 years and boom. Look at us
Only the sound of yoour voice is more relaxing than anything.
Wow, thank you Megan. This was great! I have a friend who lost his mother recently. I didn’t really know her but I know she was very important to him. I feel some of the pain as well. I don’t want to intrude on him but still be a supportive friend. This helps. On another note – sad music helps. Hit me up if anyone wants suggestions
This is beautiful and so accurate. It helps just to have someone listen to me talk about my grief when I need to without feeling like the person is going to try to cheer me up or make me feel like I can’t talk about it.
Thank you so much for explaining grief and trauma. My husband died in our bed and I have been sleeping in the spare bedroom for years. I have tried to go back to our room, but it has not worked. Now I realise that it is trauma. I now know that it was a giant full stop and his story is what I should focus on.
My crush’s dad passed away and i feel so useless not being able to help him…
When is it the right time to visit them? When can you ask about them? The fact that i dont know what to do kills me.
I lost my grandpa today due to Covid I honestly would give anything to get him back I loved him so much but I lost both of my grandpas now, I love him
Today I had to say goodbye to my dog of 14 years. She’s my best friend my baby girl. This really helped me thank you.
My daughter passed two months ago. I’m grieving alone. Not really alone but my friends and most of the family haven’t been around. I can’t hide my pain and I can’t control when the tears come which is often. When it’s fun they are around but when you’re on your butt they leave. I lost my dearest friend (my daughter) like an amputation of part of my heart. This isn’t the time to abandon ship, I need them more now than ever. But I can’t pretend I’m not devastated. Their lives go on and mine has been so horribly altered.
A WAY OF TAKING TO OUR DAILY LIFE WHAT I EXPLAINED IN MY PREVIOUS COMMENTARY IS DOING AT LEAST 10 MINUTES OF DEEP BREATHING OR PRANAYAMA FROM YOGA. BECAUSE THAT SUPPOSES HYPEROXYGENATION TO OUR BODY, WHAT IS URGENTLY DEMANDED BY THE HEALTH
I don’t remember I time where I have felt more distraught. Thankful for the gentleness of this class.
Thank you for your useful recommendations and I will be more equipped to deal with my grieving Dad. Blessings
Adriene,
I’ve been trying for a long time to process and deal with a lot of sexual trauma that has occurred throughout my life. Today I realized I was grieving for the joy and innocence I had lost and I needed to be supported. I was looking through your videos and found thisI spent most of the 26 minutes crying, holding myself and my body and being grateful for who I am. Thank you for all the love you put into the world and for being a shoulder to cry on, no matter where you are. You have a beautiful soul.
My dear Dad passed away just before lockdown, which meant I was not able to grieve in the normal way with loved ones. This video gave me a safe space to allow my grief to come to the surface, which was such a relief. I have been practising with Adriene every day in the 3 months since then. It has empowered me to soothe and support myself and really tune in to what feels good. Thank you xx
I miss my little bro he died nearly two years ago. He was only 18 and ill get counselling soon. When my dad died 7 years ago. Counselling made me feel much better and stronger.
My friend lost his dog on a boating trip and I just want to know what I should do and I don’t want to make the matters worse because I really like him and I just want him to be better and happy:C
Someone that was like a grandad to me that I never had passed away this morning it’s now 11:13pm and I’m in my bed in the dark crying my eyes out. I want him back so fucking bad
A guy holding a digital device in his hand and talking about digital obsession:-\
I lost my daddy this past March due to depression. I couldn’t save him. I couldn’t save my only love.
My grandpa has been gone for about 2 years and till this very day I still cry so much almost every day I think about him, I miss him so much
I just lost my dog, Tulip, and am grieving that loss. I didn’t feel like I had anything to give but this was lovely and gentle. Thank you
My cat died suddenly traumatically this morning and im in deep shock and grief
I lost both of my parents when I was 20. And I was deeply in pain. People told me to be strong. Time will heal everything. I know. But those advice made me feel even more lonely. And it hurt me more. People really need to know, the most healing things we can ever do with someone who is in pain, is to sit there, and be willing to share the pain.
Very nice. These are very ancient deep breathing technics from India. Thanks for promoting it for the betterment of society.
I think the depression in 2020 might be due to coronavirus not breathing ♂️
I’m studying treating anxiety at home and found a great resource at Kevs Control Plan (look it up on google)
Wonderful! As someone who has experienced significant personal loss and also has worked professionally with hospice and facilitating bereavement groups, these are excellent. Thank you!
Thank you for this beautiful practice which I needed today. My beautiful fur baby died suddenly two days ago. He used to love lying down with my while I did my yoga like your Benji. It’s hard to feel so sad over a dog, but your session gave me ‘permission’ to grieve for my gorgeous boy.
My dog passed this morning. Woke up to my father calling down stairs and saw him on the floor breathing his last breaths, even tho he’s been my childhood pet since I was 7 remember I felt more relived then upset in the moment only because he had been dealing with a limp for the past month and a half maybe and it spread to his lungs making his breathing so bad he couldn’t lie down to sleep. I spent about an 1 and half last night trying to get him to go to sleep but nothing was helping, so I gave him some pain meds to hopfully bring his heart rate down enough so he didn’t need so much air to lay down. So I had my moment with him then so I was relatively calm when he passed. Him dying has been more of a reality check then anything else making me appreciate everything more including my other pets. I think I just knew he’d be better gone then in a constant state of exhaustion and he would look at me like he was asking me to help him but I couldn’t do much besides hope for him to go soon and withought pain.
I really needed to watch this, wow. I lost my mom a month ago, and indeed, there were people who wanted to cheer me up. The ones who leaned in and stood in the grief with me really helped. I really appreciate your content. Thank you ❤️
So true, letting go of what we fear in our feelings especially grief, sadness and regret of past mistakes. Thank You for this share.
Oh wow, the WHO predicted this. Depression, anxiety and etc. Welcome to 2020.
Hey everyone I have a question for you and just want to know if you could help my friend with some wisdom if not that’s fine, recently my friend had another friend passed away recently and he’s taking a really hard time processing this the friend that passed away he was 19 years old, and he’s very confused and is saying some pretty crazy stuff it’s making me worried for him, and I know if I tell someone something it won’t make things better at all for him, I’m just very confused on what to do or say if you could please give me some advice to tell him that would be very great thankyou for your time
Thank you so much for this practice. I cried my way through and I probably will be doing so for a while. Your channel is a godsend.
My heart is broken over a sudden loss. These past few days, amongst all the confusion, heartbreak and guilt, I’ve longed for your sage advice, Adriene. Your kind words. Although he tries, my husband can’t seem to comfort me. I have distant friends I could reach out to but yours is the only comforting advice I sought. Maybe because this always feels like a safe place with no judgment and no explanation needed. Anyone else would want details and right now, I don’t have the strength. Part of me is in shock, so my grief comes in waves and then I seem to return to just numbness. This video helped to let some of that go and I’m grateful. I truly feel like I have a friend in you and that means a lot to me because in real life, I have so few. I always know that you and the community are here for me. Thank you for making this video. It helped a little and that’s something.
It’s been 2 months since my furry little cat died I have three other dogs am I’m dreading the day they die I have a dog called lexi she’s a little chiuauwa and I hate to say it but she hasn’t got long left someone help me
My 9 year old dog passed suddenly yesterday from an undetected cancer, and I’ve been trying to deal with it. She was my best friend and has been by my side through so much. She was the kind of dog that could convert even the most stubborn dog-haters through her love, energy, and gentle nature. I often keep my grief to myself defensively, and I really appreciated physically expanding and opening myself through this practice. Thank you, Adriene, for allowing me a space to find emotional connection, relief, and peace
I’m so grateful for your teaching Adriene. I’ve finally started grieving my parents divorce (lol only took me 20 years to start), and grieving my relationship with my mother while also being in a stressful job and looking for full time work back home. Once I got done with dinner this evening, I honestly didn’t know what to do. I was just crying and felt so overwhelmed, but I always remember what you say “my yoga mat has my back”. This video has been the one thing I can rely on to help me through this time of grieving. As well I have my stuffed animal sloth pepita with me for comfort during this video every time, and it always brings me joy to feel free to be myself. I’m so glad that I follow your teaching. Thank you so much.
Namaste,
Val
I have been doing this since 1999. Its great.
I add one other thing. When you let your air out, go til you are completely emptying your lungs of air (diaphragm in) hold for a few seconds, then slowly take a breath in.
I call it square or rectangular breathing when I meditate or just use it for breathing exercise.
Example: 3 seconds inhale, 3 sec hold your breath, 3 sec exhale, 3 sec hold stomach diaphragm in and 3 sec inhale.
Or 5 sec inhale, 3 hold, 5 ex, 3 hold then 5 inhale.
Peace
Thank you Adrienne, going through anticipatory grief right now, and finding it so hard. But yoga helps me so much.
Why are people laughing when he expresses the health threats due to this modern society. Very weird.
I’m actually grieving, but I opened this video for another reason: today I said something offensive in front of my classmates to one of them. I regretted it right after closing my mouth, I don’t even know why I said that thing and I felt so exposed. I apologized to my classmate and we made up, but I’ve been feeling guilty the whole day and I’m honestly sorry for myself. I think it’s because I never say offensive things and to have made such a rude comment in front of 20 people makes me feel so uncomfortable.
Hi I’d like to use in training, but I often don’t have internet. I’m trying to download using Kastor, but I’m getting an error. Is there another way I can get an mp3 copy? I will, of course, attribute it to you. I do foster parent training, and this will be valuable because kids come and go so frequently in foster care. Thanks!
Everyone tells me it’s not my fault but I feel like it is…if only i listened to myself and talked to him. Maybe he would still be here if I just send a simple “hey are you ok” but no my dumb ass said “I’ll talk to him tomorrow” but when I woke up “tomorrow” I found out he was gone.
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Megan Devine, I hope to use this in a training. How would you prefer I give credit?
78 years old I jog in the sand and I breathe 70 breaths per minute without stopping for 30 minutes I live on Kauai in the missing link is having
I am a CNA and I just witnessed my first death of a resident in a nursing home. It’s been 5 months now and I don’t know how to accept one of my favorite residents just died…
i do this for 50 years,no one understands why i never get sick or bad mood kkkkkkkkkkk now they teach this wow.
True! I lost my son and there were very few people who understood. My advice. Find someone who gets it! Let us be in pain! Don’t fix.
Breathing through the mouth is not ideal. Also, people should learn to breath less. Look up the Buteyko technique or other similar knowledge.
My boyfriends older sister shot herself Sunday morning.. he’s traumatized from finding her with a bullet in her head not being able to help her..and we’re all completely just broken.. this is a hard loss. I dont know what to do, say or how to feel.. her babies birthday was on November 5th which was me and my boyfriends 4th year anniversary and also his birthday too. I need some guidance.. I cant handle this.. Rest In Peace Mariah Leray Bettelyoun..
Thank you so much for addressing this hard topic!
The dad of my best friend recently died and he completely isolated himself for half a year now.
Yesterday we finally talked and it was so hard to deal with the topic.
By putting myself into his shoes, asking myself “Would I like to hear that if I was griefing?”, I only sat there, hugging him and telling him that the pain will eventually cease but probably will exist forever and that that is okay and it is actually beautiful, that in the end, just because someone dies, they are not forgotten but people remember them, especially in their pain.
I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this. I’m in my early twenties and have within two years lost both of my parents and I haven’t, what I’ve realized now, dealt with the pain at all. This helps me release a little bit of that pain and replace it with the love I have for them and the love I know they had for me, so thank you. X
On top of being a good listener, I try to share or relate painful emotional experiences I have had so as to empathize as share in the sadness. After watch this I’m wondering if that is maybe not such a good idea?
Lost a childhood friend Nate from a laced oxycodene supplement 5-16-20 I hope the 15 years of life you had were good bro. The thoughts of you dying keep me up at night
When my mom died, my dad and couldn’t walk and move properly for weeks. Grief accumulates in your muscles. Thank you for this.
Sending Love to everyone in this comment section and feeling so much gratitude for Adriene. My mom is reaching the end of a long battle with cancer and I’m heartbroken. This sequence helped me connect to my grief in a new way and I’m sure I’ll be revisiting this in the future Namaste Everyone
If they want to stay alone, should we give them time alone or get into the situation and ask them and give support?
My precious angel Newfoundland mix passed away yesterday at 13 years old. Heartbroken to say the least and this is allowing me to breathe for the first time in 24 hours. Thank you & Benji from the bottom of my heart for getting me through this tough time
Lost a childhood friend Nate from a laced oxycodene supplement 5-16-20 I hope the 15 years of life you had were good bro. The thoughts of you dying keep me up at night
my baby goat came to my house, we bought it for my mum. She was so beautiful and small, we called her maggie. We were so close to her and, after only two weeks, she ate something poisonous. she got really sick and passed on after we took her to the vet, she was like a best friend to me but people probably think i’m stupid because it’s just a goat. we made an instagram for her before she passed and i can’t look at it it’s pygmymaggie
You are so amazing. This practice was ideal. My grief has been so hard to navigate through and so heavy. Thank you for giving me a safe space to RELEASE, begin to HEAL, and FORGIVE. Lots of hard to process emotions but you always seem to know what to say. You’ve been instrumental to me for many years. I’ll have to tell you the day I get to meet you. Thank you.
In my situation, my cat died (this was the first pet anyone in my family has ever had) and we became really close to her. She died because my dad closed the garage door and she got stuck underneath it after a last minute attempt to get out of the garage. Even though it was entirely my cats fault that she died (since she had made the decision to go underneath the garage last second), my dad put the blame on himself since he had closed the door. My problem is that I don’t want him to go through this added guilt since he didn’t actually do anything wrong, but no matter how much we try to convince him, he still believes that he’s at fault. I understand this approach to dealing with another person’s grief when the pain they feel is accurate to the situation, but here there is extra pain that doesn’t have to be there and I don’t know what to do.
Nobody knows how much pain I have in my life I lost so much people and nobody see it in my eyes:(
Thank you. I did a random search and your video was a result. i’m hoping for the best…wish me luck guys:)
I need help I’m currently on FaceTime with my friend who has told me her dad has died. I really have never delt with something like this and I don’t know what to say but I don’t want to mess up and say something bad
Thank you for this video Adriene, it brought me a little bit of peace in a very bad day.❤️
I lost my fur baby and the next day I needed something to make me feel alive again. Thank you Adriene for this emotionally gentle session. So many poses had so many emotions come through.
Eternally grateful for this community ❤️❤️
When Lazarus died, jesus went to mary and Martha and cried with them. He didn’t say “hey check out what I can do”. Perfect example of this concept.
yes, I’m here cause someone in my family just died from a hear attack. I’m still in shock and I dont even know what to think
This video was perfect when I was doing self care after learning that a past therapy client of mine died by suicide. Thank you for this gift.
My brother committed suicide. I hadn’t talked to him in so long. All I want to do is go with him.
well its 2020/July Everything he said is now happening. we are there…
This is not my experience. My partner went through a lot of bad stuff. For years I sat with him as he talked about them. The more he talked the more he talked about them and the more….unmotivated about anything he became. Slowly I started to pick up the things he wouldn’t do any more. It got the the point where I was doing all the house work, cooking and working while he did nothing all day. For years. Then the abuse started. He started to demand more and more of me sighting his pains as excuses. Finally, after almost 20 years I’ve left him, but I’m still paying for his place to live.
Thank you so much for this adorable and gentle practice Adrienne
It feels like a hug, ans I guess every beautiful soul coming there needs one. I know I did
Sending love to anyone reading me and grieving today ❤️
Thank you for this gift. Mother’s Day is always a difficult one and a couple of weeks ago I needed this video more than I knew even myself. Thank you for what you do.
This practice meant to much to me. I had a family member pass away last week and like everyone else, is grieving for the world during this pandemic. This was very therapeutic. Thank you Adriene for providing this❤️
My bird flew away yesterday, i went searching and been putting ads of “lost bird” here and there…
i couldn’t eat, nor focus, nor proper training… I am just sad, i know is a bird but that bird helped be through my cancer therapy…
Hope he is safe… and if someone finds him to call me:(
What’s really interesting with the respiratory process from food to breath is we can’t predict the exact breathing rate. Our bodies breath us based on the microscopic necessity
THANK YOU. I AM SO EXCITED AND GRATEFUL TO HAVE FOUND YOU. I CANNOT WAIT TO START MY BREATHING JOURNEY.
My best friend’s dog died a couple days ago and I am sharing this practice with her to help her heart heal a bit. Thank you, Adriene for always having something for everyone and every moment! I truly enjoy practicing with you. Greetings from Mexico!:-)
I just lost my mom almost 3 weeks ago and I feel so alone, confused hurt and angry! She was my best friend. I hate this
my friend lost his grandma im still trying to help hin feel better
thank you I have a girlfriend thats going threw this i am doing everything to cheer her up
I don’t like that the focus of all of these things is to prove, forget and move on…
Thank you for this practice dearest Adriene. I have been coming to this practice everyday for several days now, after the tragic loss of my 24 year old grand nephew. You help ease the deep pain I have been feeling for the loss of my dear nephew, who was a wonderful talented young man, and thinking of the unimaginable grief the entire family is going through. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for always being here. You are a blessing to so many. xo
I lost my friend to bullying and he killed him self I really miss him tomorrow is the day he died 6-16-2015
I lost my father recently. He was so kind. He didn’t deserve it, I hope that he is now in heaven. At least, he no longer suffer from his lung disease. It was so sudden, one day he was just at the hospital because of lung pain, then, the next day the doctor said that he died of a cardiac arrest. I hope he rested in peace. Enjoy the time with your love one because we can never now what could happen the next day.
I lost my partner to suicide, I went out to spend the weekend with my best friend because of a stupid argument we had, he didn’t reply to my text or calls for 2 days and I thought he was just mad at me like it happened in the past, unfortunately that wasn’t the case.
It’s been almost a year and I can still remember all the details of when I found him, I can still feel how cold he was, the colour of his skin, the smell of the room…
I got told by that same best friend 2 months later that I should just get over it, but what would she know about it? She never lost anyone and because of that I lost her friendship and many others because some of my so called friends delt with grief differently, I still struggle every day to sleep without him by my side, I still cry every day when I think about him and I’d do anything to have him back but I know that’s not possible:(
It hurts but I know it will get easier eventually and same goes for anyone who lost a loved one, sometimes we can’t prevent death but what we can do is cherish all the moments we have with our loved ones and show them how much we appreciate them, just make the most of it, and if you know someone who’s struggling please let them know they’re worth, that they’re not alone.
“Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.” “Grief is itself a medicine.” “Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.”
My boyfriends dad died, and idk what to do. He’s not talking to me and just leaves me on read. I wanna help him get through this but he won’t let me.
Thank you, this handy technique is a gift to add to the repertoire that each of us, as professionals, can consider in our work to reach out to others. YOur way of reaching out is much appreciated and will enhance many lives.
Thank you for making these specific practices. My mother took her own life a month ago and she was everything to me so I feel so broken. Nothing makes sense but I need to be in my body and find my own love and strength and connect to my body even more so, even though its so so so hard right now. I intend to try and do this practice as much as I can manage. Thank you
It’s 2020 and The World Health Organization states that Corona Virus is the number 1 disability.
I so needed this! I lost my 10 yr old chihuahua a month ago. I’m so heartbroken!!! Thank you Adrienne!!!
The thing you should think about when someone drops dead is all the money you’ll save. One less person to buy presents for at Christmas and Birthdays.
i have my gecko on my shoulder and still is crying because one day he will not be here anymore:(
Death isn’t taboo! It’s natural, ubiquitous and innocuous.
Maybe Talking about it is taboo. Duh
my chickens were eaten by a fox today and its all my fault for falling asleep and not closing their house before nightfall…. i just feel so guilty and every time i close my eyes i miss them.
Thank you for this beautiful practice. I have not been practicing yoga for a long time (for about 2 weeks now) but i am noticing all these changes to my body that make me feel more at ease. Last night my cat passed away. He was a stray before he came to our house and he has lived here for 8 years. He was my everything and I will miss him so much. This practice helped me a lot today, it made me feel that it was okay that movements were more difficult than normally and that my body and my heart need all the love they can get. Thank you so much Adriene for all your video’s. You make me love and accept myself a little more every day. I will come back to this video as much as I need to. Healing takes time and that is okay!
Listen to your body today, but even more so, don’t forget…Listen to your heart. I love you.
Skip to 14:30 to learn about breathing. Everything before it has little to do with breathing and its benefits.
It’s all swept under the carpet, miscarriages, drug over doses, abortions or death of a baby or child etc the hard emotions if not trained in it.
I did this practice to after crying the whole day. Rest in peace Miura Haruma. You’ll be missed.
My son joined The Ancestors, October 29, 2019, and I feel exhausted with some asking “Are you better now?” It is so insensitive! Or, today a call came in from a person I have known less than a year who completely dropped off after my only child and only connected biological family is gone. I am in PAIN, I am present, fully present, aching, longing to know what happened, missing my closest friend, my everything! I am a Shaman & Medicine Women and I am doing my best to be in the absolute present moment and be here now, handle what I must and leave much of the rest! I have returned to “work” on a very part-time basis, and I couldn’t agree more, I SHARED YOUR VIDEO on my Facebook page and the video was “gifted” to me by a woman who is also a business owner, who has come through for me in my deepest time of grief. I will NEVER be the same ever again, some of that will be positive, more present, more real, more aware of communication, healing, a deeper level of inner standing? I connect with him on the spiritual and yet I miss him so much in the physical. We had plans, lots of life long plans, he is so intelligent, so aware and was so caught up after a surgery that I protested adamantly. I so disagree with much of Western Allopathic Medicine for good reason. Accidents, first aid, burns, cuts, broken bones on some level but not healing. I am hoping that more people will listen to your video, your words and LEARN THE ART OF COMMUNICATION AND STANDING PRESENT FOR PEOPLE WHO SIMPLY ASK FOR ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THEIR PAIN thank you!
This is really beautiful, thank you. People who try to cheer you up don’t realise that they’re requiring you to listen to them and to adapt to what they want. In giving unsolicited advice they are actually saying to you “you can’t think of this for yourself”, and “I know better than you”. When it’s done to me it makes me feel so small and stupid. And lonely. It makes everything worse. It’s easy to preach. It’s very hard to sit with somebody in their dark place and just be there with them, be willing to listen.
My snake just died. I came home today to find her dead… she had a respatory infection and I planned on taking her to the vet at 4:15…. as of now I’m moving across the country and so i have situational depression and this just hurt. Im glad to see im not alone
When I was deep in the throes of grief I stopped practicing yoga. My teacher told me it was ok just to sit on the mat and do nothing. I returned to my normal practice a few months later.
I recently lost my dog Tiger. He was 11 years old and I am 17, I knew him his whole life and we were the best of friends. He died so sudden from sickness. It hurts so much, I still find myself looking at his favorite spots around the house just to look at him but I am always disappointed and left crying only to réalisé that what happened is reality. I miss you so much ti ti. May your soul rest in eternal peace. 7-21-20❤️
Very useful. I like particularly the point about the final punctuation mark not replacing the book
I am Here because I wanted to cope With The deaths of my favorite character in a certain anime I was so attach with that anime that i feel like I am part of them just like assasination classroom. I feel like im also one of the student and the death of koro sensei was painful to me
I just lost my great grandfather on July 17 2020 he was my number 1 supporter and passed away peacefully in his sleep at 90 years old may god let him rest in peace and his memories will live with us forever and he will always be with us in our hearts. ❤️ Rest In Peace Great Grandpa you will always be missed 08/12/1929-07/17/2020 Satnam Waheguru Ji
Just lost my little pet bird snowman, and I lost a bird named pip a while back. Until we meet again, rip my little buddies ❤️
I have a feeling that my grandmother is about to die. I’m an atheist and it is harder for me to cope with a death of a loved one.
My father died when i was 8 yr, i refused to deal with it because i blamed myself for his death and for my last words to him, and the huge impact his death had on the rest of my life. I oppressed it for years, but year after year it was harder to oppress, harder to contain, and notably more mentally straining. i stopped at denial, i refused to believe that he died, i knew he did, but i refused to process it that way i went as far as to ignore his existence. Its been 10 years now, and i finally am dealing with it from about 2 years ago, not because i choose to, but because i couldnt contain it anymore, almost 8 years of denial, and oppressed grief has fallen down up on me, and im in depression, regrets, and hatred toward myself for a thing that happened 10 years ago when i was 8. And i dont think it will ever leave me, i gave it time to grow on me. And mentally… i feel guilt for ignoring his death… i dont want it to leave me cuz i feel like i deserve whats happening to me, i dont want to forget him anymore..
I guess what im trying to say is that, if u have someone who died recently, im sorry. But dont cope with it the way i did, the way i coped with it was unhealthy, and it’s tortures. Frankly, i dont believe i will ever get over his death anymore. It probably has something to do because i was so young at the time, and the effect it had on me mentally.
Sorry for ranting here, i dont have a therapist, i dont talk to anyone about it. So i thought i could at least share my experience here, even if noone will see this, at least its written somewhere.
Its 2020 now and what he said is so true with the pandemic. People are at a all time low. But again its in our own hands, once I got rid of most of my social media everything changed. We have to realize our happiness doesn’t depend on outside external sources but in ourselves.
My cat passed away today and I haven’t been able to get out of bed. I stumbled upon this yoga video that I saved when it came out in case one day I needed it and pulled enough strength to get out of my bed and onto my mat. Thank you so much for this practice Adriene
My dad passed away from brain cancer. I know I didn’t say it enough but I love you dad. RIP. 21-07-2020
I just lost my mom. And live far from my family or origin and my kids are grown/gone and far. I am also divorced. My mom was my rock. She loved me so unconditionally. I know it’s been only 3 weeks, but my grief comes in waves. I totally thank you for this video. I like the idea of organizing grief. I did see my mom die, but it didn’t traumatize me because she knew I was there and I held her hand. I am paralyzed though in the present and need to remember she wants me happy. My other losses are to my boys moving w/in the last 6 months so that’s also tough. Thank you.
My friends mom just died and the funerals today I’m recovering from a fever and being sick but still want to be there for her. I’m so confused on what to do because like I know it’s selfish to kid of make them laugh and stuff but she started telling jokes ( about other things not her mom) first. Now I don’t know what she needs from me but honestly I’m here for her no mayter what that is.
This really helps because I recently lost my baby brother and I can never let him go….it was hard on one of my sisters the most…I feel guilty about not being at the hospital when he was leaving…i’d do anything just to see him one last time….I really miss him and I don’t want to not be able to see him again…
Thank you so much Adriene, you are a light in the darkness <3
My dad passed away from brain cancer. I know I didn’t say it enough but I love you dad. RIP. 21-07-2020
My grandpa just died. It is… very strange. A person who has been there my entire life is suddenly gone. Its… odd.
Crazy watching this vid the same year he predicts depression being the number disability
Thank you so much. This was amazingly powerful and I felt like I was doing something positive, healing and productive when I needed it most. These words of thanks cannot express the depth of my sincere gratitude, but again thank you from the bottom of my heart.
this is very true, my counsellor tried to get me to meditate all the time while I was suffering ptsd, it was impossible, and I felt a failure.
When he did the breathing exercise he breathed in thru his mouth?! WTF
Thank you for this animation. I’ve added some Ukrainian subtitles to it. So I would be glad if you find it useful and publish it:)
Wow, Cape May?! I’m surprised to see such an underrated town be featured in a video like this!
I wonder how the WHO knew that 2020 would bring us horrible depression/anxiety problems? Maybe because this was all planned?
25/07/2020, i lost my best friend, my auntie, my second mother, my eternal soulmate. i will never ever be happy.
it’s been a year since my father passed. thanks for this beautiful practice Adriene <3
Thank you for this, my best friend lost her mother in a heart attack this morning and i know this knowledge will help.
Feeling vicarious collective grief tonight for NYC and places currently crushed with covid 19. This video has helped me before. Overcome with gratitude for Adriene just being herself, and she inspires me to do the same. And she’s here for us every week, even now, even as all of us are in this, together.
Catherine, Nashville, TN
Thank you, this is wonderful. Loved hearing the stories about the Navy Seals and the executive. And yes I was doing his exercise as I watched.:) I prefer to inhale through my nose, though, and exhale the same. It is much more calming and activates the lungs all the way to the bottom. Check out Patrick McKeweon on YouTube.
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Mr. Strom, Thank you for sharing this utterly valuable yet often dismissed as a simple breathing exercise. This is the most useful TedX presentation I have watched and listened to. Thank you again.
I would love to share this video on my site liftyou.org, which is not yet published (very soon!) and will link to this video.
@Yoga With Adriene hey dear…thanks..it’s just awesome. I need a favour if u can guide with do’s and don’ts before and after yoga. Myths, diet, time, etc.. I am so new to this… actually I into stress a long back and some tabs helped me…and I recovered. But I felt I recovered but not healed…Now I had a miscarriage and lot of things which make me stressed to handle like family issues from my men side and also this Quarantine. I hope I will be strong enough to handle. so pls guide to that too. thanks and love❤️
This is very helpful to the loved ones but makes me even more concerned for the griever. I suppose it’s another conversation but is one I can’t help thinking about. How does the grieving person express their need for this solace?
Adriene, I want to thank you so much for creating this for all of us. I have been hurting tremendously and an hour after finishing this, I’m getting a brief moment of relief. It is a precious gift to enjoy life, especially in times of grief. Thank you with all of my heart.
I’m grieving over a loss and if anyone here wants to talk just give a reply! We can talk about happy or sad moments with our loved ones or just life in general.
People want YOU to put on a happy face for THEM. It’s selfish.
I lost my best friend 2 months ago. I don’t know how I’m going to be able to move on if I’m ever able to
I am the Training Coordinator for a Suicide Prevention Crisis Line. I would like to use your video in our training. I think it beautifully encapsulates what I try to convey to our trainees it is not your job to fix it; it is your job to be with someone and let their pain be OK. After you make space for the bad feelings you can start to explore coping and managing the moment. Please let me know if there is anything I should do or anyone I should contact. I poked around looking for an email address but didn’t find anything. Thank you for making this lovely video.
I’m 17 and I’ve been doing yoga with you for about over a year. I recently lost my father two months ago, suddenly and whom I had a complicated relationship with. I regret that I didn’t get to say the things I had been saving or even just say goodbye. Today, the dog he got my sister and I when I was five, my beloved pet was diagnosed with stage three cancer. We’re having to consider whether the more loving thing to do is to let it run its course a little longer and treasure each second with her, or put her out of her misery before she deteriorates. I really had hoped she would make it to my eighteenth birthday next month at least, I’ve lost so much already, but I’m not sure. Thank you for this video Adriene, I’m so grateful for it and I’m sure it’s exactly what I need. Sending you love
My dog Stella died due to cancer, she’s been with me most of my life and she would’ve lived longer if cancer hadn’t gotten to her first. Everyday when I come out to the garden I’d pick blackberry’s and give them to her and she’d pick peas off of the pea plant. I miss her so much that I’d do anything to get her back
Thank you so much for that. I just received the news that a friend of mine committed suicide and it broke my heart. I cried, I prayed for her and her family, and I practice this Yoga to help me…. you are light. Thank you for doing this for us.
Thank my friend’s mom might die very soon and this is helping me comfort him and also please everybody pray for his family
keep calm and breathe and carry on…free no side effects…be well! Peace…Genesis chapter 2
I lost my grandfather today to a sudden heart failure. I’m thankful for having had the chance to get to know him as an adult. The last year we spoke every Sunday on the phone. After commenting the weather, he would tell me about having fixed a neighbours kitchen cabinet and I would tell him about my latest topic at uni. Then we would come into the topic of always learning something new about life. My last memory of him is when he wished me a good week ahead.
Thanks for meeting me in my grief today Adriene. Inspiring me to take some deep breaths and to write this text. I now see the light of this bringing me, my sister, my mom and my grandmother closer together. Namaste. <3
Thank you so much for this! I saw this in a training I was in, and I will be showing it in a grief group I am designing and running for my masters in social work program!
“There’s no right or wrong way to deal with the loss of a loved one”
Anime antagonists: YYeaaahhh…about that
Great video. Thank you for the advice, not only for practitioners but also for people that are grieving.
Thank you. It’s difficult to explain why I needed this session but it helped me out of a very sad place.
I lost my uncle.He died from cancer. I miss you so much ❤️
Rest in peace
17.7.2020.
I’ve recently (just 5 days ago) broken up with my boyfriend. I turned to yoga and meditation and came across Adriene’s yoga for grief. I’d like to thank you, Adriene, for having my back and giving me an outlet to release my emotions. Every time I do this sequence, I always end up crying but feeling better and lighter afterwards. Taking it a day at a time. ❤️
I lost my grandma yesterday at around 3pm. Rest In Peace Granny 7/27/20
thank you for this beautiful practice. your love and compassion helped me so much. The cat cow sequence freed my tears, allowed them to flow. I stayed with the video and was so comforted by the entire practice. thank you thank you, beautiful soul
Wow, I’m realizing now how my therapist used all of these techniques to help me grieve my dad.
Quick Doubt: Breathing through Mouth, is it correct?
Awesome Talk:)
I had a alcoholic aggressive yet loving grandpa for most of my life. Once I left my country I heard that he changed that year and how he was a better person stopped drinking and was a perfect grandpa for my younger siblings. I could not wait to come back and to see him after I have been kinda ignoring him because I was still mad at him of how he acted and treated me and my loved ones when he was drunk. I was so exited to spend some time with him because that’s all I ever wanted, to have a good grandpa. He passed away from COVID this morning and I never felt worse.
This works!!! So simple and yet effective! Back to The Source!
RIP my grandfather CS Seshadri, such a great person, so many math achievements, and love for music. You are with your wife now, my beloved grandmother.
Rest in peace, you will be missed.
When my mother died I was just 17… The whole family turned against me with their agenda of how I supposed to live my life… getting into the most private parts of my life… of course it only fired back… All my life (32now) I felt misunderstood… left out… disappointed… just ALONE. After many years of trying to get on the same page… I CHOSE to cut those ppl… and I don’t regret… never guild trip ppl who are grieving.
I peeked in on my grandmother napping. She looked so vulnerable I couldn’t hold back the tears. I needed somewhere to “place” these feelings.
Thank you.
And I love you too!
I lost my grandmother in 2017 due a doctor providing false information to gain money (he got arrested because he knew she had a breathing problem but gave her a more expensive medicine for a another disease even though she didn’t have the disease he prescribed )but I still grief for her today as she was a important part of my life.she supported me when my grandad died and also helped me with so many things in life
I miss her but this video helped me cope.i haven’t been truly happy in since 2017 until now
Thank you for sharing this! Adding to my toolbox for clients! <3
Thanks this is really helpful. I lost my Grandad a couple of weeks ag. Me and my Dad were really close to him, we alwalways used to go to football matches together. What’s worse is I may not even get to go to his funeral because of COVID.
RIP Grandad, you’ll never be forgotten
✨ Thank you so much Dr. Zeig for this wonderfull gift.
French traduction ➡️ https://www.cabinet-particulier-hypnose.com/single-post/2017/08/25/Le-Deuil-une-%C3%A9motion-particuli%C3%A8re
I lost my mom 2 years ago, I was 9 years old. She died of some liver thing and one day she was there andnow she’s not. I don’t expect for my friends to ever understand how it feels, but it hurts even more with the feeling that I’m alone on this.
I had to put my sweet almost 16-year-old dog Merlin to sleep three days ago. He was my childhood dog and soulmate and I have never gone through anything more painful than that day. I had preemptively saved this video because I knew the day would be coming soon when he would leave me. Today I finally managed to get on the mat after not having done any yoga this week and even though I cried throughout the practice it felt good and calming to hear your voice and do something for myself again. I cannot thank you enough for your videos and words of encouragement.
Just lost my Grandma because of the Coronavirus. Please follow necessary precautions people. It’s not about us as the young generation, it’s about the older generation who can’t right for themselves too well.
“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved it simply wants to be winessed exactly as it is”
True
My beautiful baby girl Phoenix went to sleep over a month ago on 26th December 2019, blessed me with her presence 3 days earthside, so I did this in honour of her. This was the first time I moved my body properly after a traumatic hospital experience and cried when I deeply inhaled and exhaled as I realised how long it had been since I actually breathed so thank you for this Adriene. I love you my little Phoenix for an eternity and more ❤️
I fear death and remunerating too much about death. one day i will may have to watch my father and mother die. Sometimes I wish I was never born
Thank you for posting. I lost my daughter years ago and have recently had 3 friends who have lost their children in the last year. While everyone’s intentions are pure, it is something that can’t be fixed, and the comments often made can be more painful and lead to isolation. After losing a child, having to survive that, the next worst thing is having to pretend it’s all ok, or not being able to talk about your child or grief because others are uncomfortable or can’t understand. I shared your video for my friends who recently lost their children. Thank you for your video, well done.
Needed this today. Thank you Adriene and Chris and Benji and whole YWA team ❤️
26.7.2020 i will miss you forever and remember the good times with you. Moment when i last send you message i wouldnt never known youre going to be gone.fly high my buddy we will miss you❤️
It’s 2020 in the middle of the global pandemic and yes anxiety and depression are at all time highs
One of my family members just died..So I came here. I can’t stop crying
I think some truly want to make the person feel better bc they can relate to what the person is going thru. I’ve def made the mistake of making a few positive comments and letting the person know that I’m there for them, then back off bc I don’t want to overwhelm. I feel terrible bc I fs didn’t want to come off as this. Thanks for the lesson learned fr!
Exceptional! Truly amazing information. It seems as though far too many people want to push mourners into silence with bullsh*t advice about ‘bucking up’ and staying focused on happy things. “To be able to say this hurts without being talked out of it, that’s what helps. Being heard helps.” Thank you for putting this amazing video together.
Grief (Not Exists Opposite Emotion): Arrow without target
Energy Goes Through the Ritual
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Regrets: 후회
Resentments: 억울함
appReciation: 감사
Good bye
uncle I saw him die he was so young but he held on for his daughters rip he will be missed
A friend of mine just had a pet die in her family and now she’s gone out of town. So, I sent her the following message the next day after we talked about it a little bit.
“Hey, so I know you said that there isn’t much that I could do to help with everything, especially since you’re going to be going to camp, and you do your best thinking on your own, but I still want to do my part and help in someway. So, I’m just gonna be checking up on you everyday to see how you’re doing. If you can’t respond at all, that’s completely fine. I just want to make you feel supported and cared about because that’s what you deserve. Anyway, I hope you were doing okay yesterday and I hope you’re doing okay today. Best wishes to you and your family, love you and have a good day!”
I don’t know if that was the best thing to say in this situation, but it felt right.
THANK YOU FOR THIS! I am coming up on the year anniversary of my wife’s death. She was a a ton of pain for many years. I was a former ER Nurse and thought I could fix things. She taught me I can’t. Painful medicine for me to take. After she died, people would tell me to be strong, tried to do things to cheer me up, take away the pain. I HATED them for that. I’ve been sharing my story in the form of a podcast and stay away from the advice angel and plead with others a similar message. I needed to hear this and will share your message. Again, thank you!
It’s better to inhale through the nose. Avoid mouth breathing.
Hi, this is such a great video! I teach at a nursing school and would love to use this during my class when we talk about loss, grief, and dying. I think this sums up how to “facilitate grieving” in our patients better than any textbook I have seen. If I show it in class is it ok to just leave the video as it is? I also have a link to your website that I provide to the students as a great resource for learning more. Thanks!
I want to help my brother so much I don’t know what to do I can hear him crying from the other room my heart is breaking
It reminds me of the lines in the poem: “I shot an arrow into the air, I didn’t know where it would land…”
My brother, who hunts with a crossbow sometimes, thinks it’s a dumb line. Well, it’s by a woman poet who lived in the 1800’s, when women didn’t hunt.
Ours is impossible to ever “get through” because secondary garbage related to what happened never stops popping up like the heads of the Hydra. We chop down one monstrosity & TWO MORE pop up in the place where the one was.
I think it’s rude for people to stage protests, in relation to the people who committed a capital murder on our loved one (and 2,988 others), and publicly show how DA,MNED UPSET they are at the idea of these 5 people getting capital sentencing while showing NOTHING of how they feel about what happened to OUR loved ones. Their big “crime,” for which the murderers sentenced them to death, was going to work while being American. Or taking a plane ride while being American.
Eric L. Bennett
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I facilitate an online grief support group and would love to share this with them in an email and post it on my Facebook page (lovemymysticlife). Thank you!
Why is he breathing through his mouth. All the other techniques I’ve seen stress the importance of breathing from your nose.
Thank you so much for this. Especially now when we are encouraged to distance from people…all i needed was a big hug and this practice was enough. XO
Yesterday, me and my family decided to have my dog euthanized, and now we’re digging his grave in our backyard. It’s really hard to believe he’s gone, and me and my family knew he probably wouldn’t make it with what’s going on with him, but I’m still just… in shock. He was my best friend, had him since I was five, he was there when I slept with him last night and now he’s gone. A lot of people don’t see pets as true family, but he was like my brother.
And if I can ask what brought you here specifically…your answers please
I just did this practice after my dog of ten years, Miller, passed away. My heart hurts. Thank you for giving me a quiet moment to come back to my breath.
My cat I have had since I was 5 years old died very suddenly last month. He was my everything, 16 years of love shared between us, we were inseparable. I feel like I have been handling his loss as well as anyone could. I am generally happy and laugh and enjoy life, but the smallest thing will open and an immense flood of emotions that feel too raw and deep to even begin to process. I think of him every day and all the moments we shared every day but are now just gone. Yoga was one of those things we shared. As soon as I lied out the yoga mat he was there, choosing the video I would watch and he was there, practicinghe was there and involved in every move. Today was the first time I have laid out the mat since he died, I saw this video and began crying so much in just the first few seconds from being reminded so vividly of my baby, I had to close it multiple times before I could be vulnerable enough to continue I just kept saying “I can’t do this, it’s too much, not today”. But after reading the comments of many others who have lost, I decided I had to be brave enough to move through it, no matter how hard because today is exactly the day that I needed it. I couldn’t stop crying for the first 10 minutes but soon after we started moving I was able to relax enough to breathe, and it felt really good, I felt so comforted and supported. It really felt like Adriene was here with me, guiding me through some healing. Thank you.
My best friends dad dies so suddenly. She’s only 16 and I don’t know what to do.
I loved the seagulls in the opening. Don’t any of these people feel embarrassed for explaining how-to breathe? Give me a break.
I lost my beloved uncle this week to coronavirus. It is hard to not be in person to say my goodbyes. I have been so busy with work and finals at college that I didn’t give myself time to grief. I found peace in this video. I found presence and I felt connected to myself and his soul. Thank you for that.
Would it be possible to create a Spanish version of this!? I work for a school-based mental health program and we’d like to share this out with our monthly wellness newsletter issue on grief in December, but many of the families we serve are Spanish-speaking.
A beautiful, calming, relaxing and gentle class. I see other people comment and how this video allowed them to grieve, which is amazing.
Today I just needed to feel loved and connected, which doing this class helped. Thank you Adriene!
Thank you so much for this video Adriene. For the last 3 years I’ve been doing your yoga with my bunny Nutmeg by my side, this week she passed suddenly and I am in a deep sorrow, it was incredibly difficult to come to the mat without her today but this video was absolutely perfect, I cried, a lot but most importantly at the end, I smiled. Namaste. Thank you for making it feel like you’re just one of my friends, helping me get by.
Thx I need this my friend lost a family member and I couldn’t cheer her up
I’m watching this cause my best friend recently lost her sister in July of last year (2018) and this year (2019) she lost her puppy who was the first animal she ever met she got him when she was six and her dog was six in human years when he passed away so pls keep her in your hearts.
As a MSW Student Intern, this series is like finding ” The Mental Health City of Gold”..smile. It has provided a great source of information and insight.
im 26 i lost my grandma 2 years ago and now my mom has terminal cancer i guess im going throw all the anger denile sadness depression all of them im faling apart and i have no ide my mom hasnt even pased yet and im falling apart
One ancient guidebook put it this way. (Romans 12:15)… weep with those who weep.
I’ve lost a friend today, he took his life. Thank you Adriene for having my back
I had a twin brother who died when i was 6, i was there when they barred him, i can’t even watch my self in mirror, evertime i see him instead of my self
Last month, my cat had surgery to remove a tumor from her stomach, and yesterday, the vet told me the cancer has already spread to her lungs. She has maybe a month or so to live. I’ve done this yoga practice before, but this time, I’m actually grieving while doing it. I woke up today thinking “I’m going to get all her favorite treats and toys and spoil the crap out of her.” I opened my bedroom door, saw her sitting there waiting for me like she usually does and immediately started crying. I’ve been crying throughout the day. I needed this practice. If anything, it at least reminded me to breathe. Thank you.
As a therapist this is very helpful for my clients. Thank you. Tammi
I’ve lost both my parents to COVID. This is so true. I’m sick of people telling me to cheer up, or to “look at the bright side” (wtf?). I want to tell them to shut up.
If you are watching this, just know that you can trust in Jesus, and he loves you, read the four gospels and you can talk to him, he won’t cast you out like other people, repent and trust in him
I suffer from all that you have described! But I don´t think it´s a global issue. I live in Slovakia and it looks there are only a few people with problems like mine.
Megan, thank you for your work, everything you do! Would it be possible, to translate this into German? I would like to take care of it, arrange a speaker etc…….
Hi, I occasionally show your video when I train health care providers on how to improve their resilience and the resilience of others in a compassionate way. Could you direct me to the preferred way to cite the video so I can properly attribute in my training handouts?
This is what they tried to explain in the movie Inside Out. Joy constantly tries to get rid of Sadness and her sad thoughts that hurt Riley. But when Joy sees how sadness gets Bing Bong out of his pain just by acknowledging it and listening to him, she understands that when sad, Riley doesn’t need Joy to cheer her up, but she needs Sadness to acknowledge her pain. Sadness is then given much more control over Riley’s brain, and that’s when Riley becomes able to talk about her pain and get support and love from her parents. This movie truly is amazing.
Lost my sweet dog yesterday to congestive heart failure. He couldn’t breathe and died as I tried to rush him to the hospital. i know that guilt is a part of grief, but I forgot how crushing it can be. Feeling terrible just about breathing, when he couldn’t, and yesterday’s desperate drive keeps playing over and over in my mind. Thanks for giving me a way to lean in. I know that the only way out is to go right through. I appreciate your reminders that i’m supported and i can do this. ❤️
My mom and dad died today I feel like giving up my life it’s hurts so much help me!!!
when my dad died my mom started crying because she was gonna be forced to deal with my siblings and i and she doesnt even want us. i know damn well shes only taking care of us because she doesn’t want to look bad. she was cheating on my dad the whole time and i always knew. Its been 2 year since my dad’s death and my mom is neglected us but its okay because one day we’ll move out and live a happier life but i really doubt we will.
1:50 mentions how in 2020 depression and anxiety will be the number one disability. Based on the state of the world, this is absolutely true!!
You were amazing sir. After years I actually understood the correct way of breathing.
I was in the middle of one of your 30 day yoga challenges, when my relationship ended. I can’t bring myself to do the rest of the challenge for now, but I will be doing this video every day for the rest of the 30 days. It’s a gift. Thank you adriene.
My dog just died not too long ago like hours ago and I have no clue how to deal with it
To my friend who’s facebook, feed led me to this video. When you told me that you were saddened by the loss of your sister, what I really wanted to say and did not have the guts to say was: We will all lose everything that we love throughout our lives, but that love will return in different guises.
Much love Angela
Wonderful video. Thank you, Jeff. Greetings and a subscriber from Sweden
Thank you so much for this gentle practice. My beloved dog died yesterday and I can‘t stop crying.
In terrible grief over the loss of my Mom just this past September. There is no greater sorrow than losing one’s Mother. I have never been a fan of yoga until I found your video today. Thank you so much for your guidance and kindness. Your compassion and calmness is visible in you AND your beautiful dog. Thank you and many blessings. I will be viewing this (and practicing this) often. <3
Learned not to talk about things. No one wants to listen to me say I hurt.
Thank you so much for this resource. I plan to share it with my staff at my elementary school. I will be loading the YouTube link to my site for teachers.
For how long or how many times in a day should one do this exercise?
breathing using my diaghram here..more effective for building up lung capacity!!
My best friend and now boyfriend lost his mother last November and it hurts me knowing I can’t really help him. What really sucks is He’s 17 and will be 18 the 20th of this month..he needed his mother, he didn’t even get to say goodbye because he didn’t know she was going to pass. She called him a few days before she passed but he didn’t answer her because he was stressed and couldn’t take hearing she was in pain. I’m not fully sure why she passed but I do know it had something to do with drinking and her liver. I’ve actually cried because I know that he’s going through so much..he doesn’t really show it often..but he’s strong and will get through it. ❤️
People are so weird, barely anyone knows how to deal with me… My boyfriend of 7yrs passed in March during Covid19..so I’ve had no choice but to isolate while in quarantine through my mourning …. EVERYONE SHOULD SEE THIS! Im going to share this! Thank you for this video. Nice touch with the animated cartoon animals…its calming, as is the narrators voice.
i come from the future 2020 there will be a virus called corona
Last year my little cousin past away on May 16. She was 14 months. She past from CHD. Then 3 months later on August 28, my Granny past away. I had all these emotion built up and I did t know how to deal with them. It is a year later and I am still sad and I still don’t know how to deal with it all. Is this normal?
Hi Adriene.
Thank you for this video. I’m using this video to overcome the loss of my beloved father. Take care. Anila
It’s been 7 years since my dad passed away unexpectedly. It never seems to get easier, but this practice helped ground me this morning. From the sincerest part of my heart, thank you.
I lost my hubby of 13 years 9 months ago I’m so sick and tired of hearing people telling me it’ll be ok things will get better, and recently have been told I need to suck it up and move on already that makes me mad as hell. I love my husband with all my heart and soul he was my soulmate sometimes I just wish people that has never lost a spouse would just shut the hell up if they haven’t had a lose like that they have no business telling us to move on.. it’s not like we can just brush off our grief whenever we want..
So many here saying their grandpa died. Mine is going to. Currently on a ventilator and they already called my grandma to say there has been no improvement. I don’t know when it will happen but in the next few days I already know I will get that call.
This is an outstanding talk. I teach my yoga students to breathe at the beginning of each class. Can’t do breath retention with one pregnant student, but we do lots of deep, conscious breaths.
I just lost a very dear friend. This practice has helped me grieved over his loss. Cried from beginning till the end. Thank you Adriene.
Thank you. I found your insights and suggestions both practical and sensitive.
Thanks too, for the reminder of the power and value of metaphor. Most useful in grief conversations/support!
Easily one of the best presentations I have listened to. Very informative and very inspiring. I know someone who can totally use this information and I’m hopeful that they will be just as impressed as I was and utilize it to their benefit. Thank you so much
My sweet senior dog Oliver-Lloyd died yesterday. This is what I need, thank you Adrienne
My friends mom just passed away and I live 2 hours away. It’s hard but I understand and I want to be there for him so bad.
just lost my job today. with piles of other things going on in my brain… i needed this. didnt follow much but got on the mat and did some movements.
My grandfather passed away and this was a nice practice to allow me to breathe more deeply:)
This is so true. I lost my baby boy one day after his due date, he was perfectly healthy. People have said soooo many odd things to try to cheer me up, “at least it happened now and not when he was 1” that makes me feel like they don’t think my baby is as important as a 1 year old!
“You’ll have another baby and be a mom one day” another baby will never replace my son, and I’m still a mom.
It’s true, I have a friend who will just sit and cry with me, she loves to talk about my sonthis is the only thing that makes me feel better.
I believe this is my issue I’ve lost my brother a year ago and I’ve never really cried didnt go to his funeral and now I get all of this physical symptoms headaches my asthma is acting up more and I never thought of it to be grief i thought it was always something
Very useful. Your right I can’t get past the trauma of my adult sons last month. Watching him die from drinking and nothing we could do. And knew it was coming. Knew he wanted to die. If an adult person says no to medical. No matter who you are. You can’t legally do nothing. Dr helped us a bit by saying in general not saying the persons name. Just horrible us parents and his 3 kids so broken and mom left state to be with her bf. So hard 6/6/20. We will try these techniques. Due to covid counseling is limited. We get back 30!minit session on the phone. Atleast it’s something
I can’t for the life of me understand why this video has 8 dislikes, please enlighten me. This video is a big help to me for working with my clients.
I didnt think I’d be visiting this video for a long time. My mother passed away 4 days ago and her wake is today. Thank you for this video, Adrienne.
Grandma plzz come back your the only person I have in my life you can’t be gone Plzzz I can’t live without you plzzzz GOD give her back
One of my friends has cancer and I just got the message today that she might not make it I just don’t know what to do these past two years I have had hope that she would overcome it but I’m completely losing it!! I prayed I did everything and nothing. if anyone has any tips for the future before something does happen please let me know
This was great information. I am looking into specializing in grief/loss, and if anyone has any helpful trainings/resources, please let me know! Thank you!
My mom is alive and well but why am I afraid of her dying? She is 67 This just started a couple weeks ago all of sudden. I do have anxiety and severe OCD so that could be it. I seriously need to stop.
Thank you for this beautiful practice Adriene and all your sweet words. It helped the tears to flow. To my sweet Daisy Mae, I love you always my heart.
2020 depression and anxiety will be the biggest illness….. Enter corona virus
Want that last minute on a loop to remind me how to breathe!
I lost my mom last month. She has been sick for a while. She was in so much pain. It was Litterly the hardest time in my life. I’m still in high school too and it just hurts knowing she won’t be here for my prom day or graduation. I miss you mommy so much. Everything I did has always been for you and it will always be for you. I’ll keep making your proud. I’ll carry on your name. I love you so much to the moon and back mom
Oh how i feel sooooo drained and stressed…..i feel like curling up in a ball and be thrown in a corner…..i lost my grandma due to cancer and idk how to cope guys……i feel like **
Thanks for such an excellent series Jeff. Really enjoying it.